If it was me, knowing my wife...I wouldn't want to know. She was drunk and used bad judgment on multiple levels. I'd need to know more info about dude tho....was it someone I knew and was cool with? Someone that's been in the house already?

Like aside from the extras that happened, would i be upset if she told me that she let dude in to pee?

We got kids too? My whole thing would be could i trust her going forward. IF so, I'd try to move on. If not, I might take the L for the sake of the kids.