where I read Ellis for his writing, not his meaning. If there was a big message in that book, say, about father/son relationships or love or family connections or whatever, it slipped past me.

What I loved about it (when I loved it) were some of his offhand comments about parenting or life in general.

I did NOT like the ghost part. That just didn't work for me. But that's okay. I'm actually kind of resigned to his endings falling flat or flattish. See, e.g., Glamorama. Which should have ended at least a hundred pages before it did. lol