>>"When you choose your mate, you
>>decided that her being black
>>was NOT a priority."
>>
>>That's all she is saying.
>>That's all she has been
>>saying. Everything she has
>>said, has been in support
>>and explanation of the above.
>
>Have you read this entire thread??
>Because that is most certainly
>NOT all she's been saying.
>
>
>This premise cited above I would
>have no major beef with.
>But she has gone far
>beyond that.
>
>When she says things like: "if
>you value your blackness, your
>heritage & your culture why
> wouldn't you choose to
>be with someone who brings
>those same qualities to the
>table?"...

the question she asks is y wouldn't u? and your answer is ... what? i mean u would say i do value my blackness and my heritage and i choose NOT to be w/ someone who brings those same qualities b/c __(insert answer here)___

>When she suggests that being open
>to dating outside your race
>and being susceptible to abusive
>relationships are caused by similar
>psychological issues...

could u quote that, i remember where she talked about abuse, but i didn't come to that conclusion.

>And when she says things like:
>"it just isn't positively affirming
>for the culture if its
>members are forming their most
>meaningful relationships (husband/wife) with outsiders,
>the end result is the
>death of a culture, as
>it gets swallowed up and
>assimilated by others"...

to be fair she didn't say that.

>...when she says these things she
>is going way beyond what
>you quoted.
>
>I am not questioning the premise
>you cited. It is the
>next step, the blanket assumptions
>and value judgements made based
>on that premise, that are
>being questioned.
>
>>And folks are feeling guilty about
>>that.
>
>No, it is Nahymsa who is
>asserting that they should feel
>guilty, and they are questioning
>this assertion, as well they
>should.



Shemhotep
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"If u want a butterfly u got to B a
butterfly" - India.Arie, Butterfly

"the wages of sin is death"
Romans ch.6 v.23

"If the essence of 'love'... is giving
selflessly or sacrificing for others,
how can it then be equated with
something that you can 'fall into or
out of'?" - Ra Un Nefer Amen,
Afrocentric Guide to a Spiritual Union