>"When you choose your mate, you
>decided that her being black
>was NOT a priority."
>
>That's all she is saying.
>That's all she has been
>saying. Everything she has
>said, has been in support
>and explanation of the above.

Have you read this entire thread?? Because that is most certainly NOT all she's been saying.

This premise cited above I would have no major beef with. But she has gone far beyond that.

When she says things like: "if you value your blackness, your heritage & your culture why wouldn't you choose to be with someone who brings those same qualities to the table?"...

When she suggests that being open to dating outside your race and being susceptible to abusive relationships are caused by similar psychological issues...

And when she says things like: "it just isn't positively affirming for the culture if its members are forming their most meaningful relationships (husband/wife) with outsiders, the end result is the death of a culture, as it gets swallowed up and assimilated by others"...

...when she says these things she is going way beyond what you quoted.

I am not questioning the premise you cited. It is the next step, the blanket assumptions and value judgements made based on that premise, that are being questioned.

>And folks are feeling guilty about
>that.

No, it is Nahymsa who is asserting that they should feel guilty, and they are questioning this assertion, as well they should.


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