about this for a few years now

i married someone of a different race and culture

a lot of our differences go deeeeep. in a way when u marry u share yr experiences- what happens to one happens to the other- and in a way there are experiences that cd never be shared

with everybody u meet there'll be differences. and u'll have to work those differences out for a long term relationship. so u gotta make the decision of what differences u wanna be reckoning with on the long term

as for the one true love out there somewhere/ soulmate/ how cd u help the color argument, i think it's bullshit. u do choose who is an ok person to fall in love with/ u choose who yr open to.

the main thing abt mixed relationships that makes my hair stand on end is the fetishizing some couples do over eachother- and when one or both people get "comfortable" and assume that having a mixed relationship means that they don't have any racist attitudes/beliefs/friction/tension/opressor/opressed/etc.

nothing makes u safe from that dynamic. not even sex.


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