>i was talking to someone who
>told me of a family
>member who recently divorced his
>white wife. for all
>intents and purposes she was
>a "good woman," looked after
>the children, faithful etc. but
>he said in terms of
>his africanness, especially as he
>beagn to read more, he
>found that she just saw
>it as something to tolerate.
> plus there was the
>problem of white privelege, that
>exclusive club she was born
>into, that he would never
>be "a part" of.

things like that would always be in the back of my mind if i married/dated someone white. on the other hand, if they were a part of another minority group, the differences might be more cultural--e.g. a language barrier--but at least they'd be more likely to understand the ideas of being held to a stereotype, discrimination, etc.

but do you think that changes if you marry a european vs. a white american? europeans aren't necessarily inundated with the same concepts of race. a white person from another country might be a lot easier to relate to than a white american.

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