really.


>I choose who I deal with,
>I don't deal with drug
>dealers, I don't deal with
>men who hit women, I
>don't deal with men with
>bad teeth, I don't date
>men who are shorter than
>me, I don't date me
>that don't read books, I
>don't deal w/ men that
>support Clarence Thomas. And I
>don't date white men.
>I've decided on a daily
>basis who I will give
>the opportunity to get to
>know me better..I certainly don't
>make myself available to each
>man that approaches me. I
>would never teach my daughters
>that you stumble into the
>most important relationship into your
>life or that LOVE CHOOSES
>YOU. We all should
>decide what we value and
>make sure that we seek
>that in our mates &
>bring it into our lives.
> Women that don't are
>the same type that end
>up cowering from fists thinking
>love is something that's grabbed
>hold of them. I
>would never tell anyone that
>they don't have the power
>to choose who they love....its
>God given.
>
>I boiled it down to the
>basic because it really is
>that simple. We're not talking
>about a situation where there
>are physically not enough black
>women to pair up with
>black men. If a
>black man wants a black
>woman, he has an overwhelming
>selection or he can go
>to where there is one.
>
>
>>People should start giving potential mates
>>physical and intellectual tests to make sure they pass on
>>good genes to their children.
>
>People already do that, most people
>without down syndrome wouldn't date
>someone with it. Most of
>us aren't atracted to the
>sickly or the weak.
>
>If you don't feel black people
>should look out for one
>another that's your business. Thankfully,
>those before you didn't feel
>that way. You decide what
>you value. My mate &
>I will adopting a black
>child because that's our responsibility
>to our people, our community.
>Those are our values.
>IF your values don't lead
>you there then so be
>it.


Shemhotep
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"If u want a butterfly u got to B a
butterfly" - India.Arie, Butterfly

"the wages of sin is death"
Romans ch.6 v.23

"If the essence of 'love'... is giving
selflessly or sacrificing for others,
how can it then be equated with
something that you can 'fall into or
out of'?" - Ra Un Nefer Amen,
Afrocentric Guide to a Spiritual Union