being born and raised in an Asian (Filipino) family and having a good handful of Asian friends, I think that there are more similarities in the patriarchy prevalent in Asian families and Black families than there are differences.

I've seen this in my own extended family and friends' families - men do not get as much blame for their screw ups as do women. And all of this is of course dependent upon different Asian cultures, etc. In what I've seen in my own culture - the boys tend to be more spoiled, revered and the girls often catch the flack despite growing up to be the matriarchs of their families. This will never happen in my parents household, because my mom is not your typical Filipino woman - more liberal, independent, and open-minded than most Filipino moms I know. But I've seen it in my cousins, friends, students I work with, etc.

One example I've seen where boys are treated differently than girls is teen pregnancy - the girl gets most, if not all, of the blame, whereas or boyfriend/sex partner is hardly scrutinized. I've seen this in all cultures, not just my own. Or case in point - single parenthood, custody usually falls upon the shoulders of women.

so if you were to ask me if there is a problem in Black communities with the gender roles, patriarchy, etc. I will agree with you, but I will also say that these issues are evident in other communities and are growing problem that needs to be addressed.
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