While i can't think of any off the top of my head, i would suggest picking up teensy little book by Sobonfu Some' called "Welcoming Spirit Home." this gives u an idea of how the community s set up so that i think (don't quote me) a stranger wouldn't be someone just outside of your family as it is here, but rather someone outside of the community. i think if u couldn't resolve it among yourselves (w/in the immediate fmaily) then help from wise ppl in the community is sought for mediation. i'll look tho'.
Shemhotep
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"There is something dreadfully wrong
with an education/socialization process
that leaves us ignorant of our past,
strangers to our people, apes of our
oppressors, and creatures of habitual,
shallow thought, and trivial values."
-Dr. Asa G. Hilliard,III

"general group behavior patterns matter
more than individual exceptions. and
past group behavior is indicative of
future group behavior." - yuckwheat

"Everyone has their myths which is
fine. However when one parades "myth"
as "fact" especially concerning ANOTHER
group of people independent of the said
myth-making group then we have a
problem. The myth now becomes a LIE." -
Solarus