>not necessarily all, but i can
>understand that many turn to
>sex when they need to
>succeed, need love or whatever
>it is.
>
>Perhaps you read it on okayplayer,
>nettrice.. because i also read
>it not long ago. made
>me think about it, too,
>because people and need for
>attention, confirmation, success (all of
>those things) has been on
>my mind lately

I guess all of my "best friends" were young women who engaged in gratutious sex while I was cautious. These people also ranged from poor to upper middle-class. Ronnie, Cyndi, Jerri (not their real names)...all got pregnant before they turned 18. These girls represented what my father thought was my fate and I was determined to defy his predictions. When I was younger I too craved for meaning, purpose and value. I was in pain. The only difference between me and all my close friends was I sought out a different path, a path away from engaging in gratuitous sex. I explored and almost got away from the raod less traveled.

I think folks read my posts thinking I was judging poor people. Read my post again and see that is not the case. The original post was about poverty and promiscuity but I am writing about motivation, what motivated my friends and me. Rather than seek understanding on this thread I am trying to delve deeper into myself as well as take it deeper than surface level or income & ethnicity. What is promiscuity if it isn't just about the need to have sex all the time? This isn't class or income based.

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