>I guess I need 2 look 4 that, or keep it in mind. U R right
>about that GranMa thing too. We discussed this w/ my brother
>one time. There is NO WAY he could raise his daughter w/o my
>mother if his wife died, unless he IMMEDIATELY remarried. NO
>WAY. The child would starve, and have locs in 3 months,
>because he would not know what to do w/ her hair. I was
>thinkin' 'bout these Brothahs that run this vegan Rasta
>restaurant I like in Baltimore. The staff in this joint is
>all male, and the food is great, which means they have the
>cooking part down. But, they are all such playas, it is not
>even funny. The owner typically has 50 million passion marks
>all over his neck, yet he'll be 'tryna holla'. The cook
>straight up TOLD ME that he is living w/ somebody, but guess
>what? He SURE WAS tryna holla. I mean, really now.

I kept meaning to go there, I saw an ad in the city paper - I go to UMBC but am in the UK right now. Yea a lot of men idealize polygamy but I know a lot of people from Africa who are like it is not as great as it seems and there are a lot of issues that go alogn with it. Even better, half the men talking about polygamy are broke. Yet the Muslim rule for that is that you have to be able to suppoert and care for all fo your wives equally.

Anyway, I would meet these Brothahs in the ATL, and
>just think the world of them, only to find out how they were
>treating their women like s***, OR to realize that their
>so-called interest in my friendship was so they could use me
>for something, or another.

Yes, they claim they want to be yoru friend but are only trying to find a way in the bedroom, that has happened to me a couple of times. I actually had a close friend who would try and butter up how he treated his girlfriend to me and get mad when I called out his hypocrisy. Same man talking about the Black Women is a Queen...

Any man I decided to be with has to be able to know how to cook, wash, clean, and take care of children. My father knows how and does it alongside my mother (although she does more) - that is what I expect. I would not married to be a maid, or a surrogate mother, lol. Like you said before adn I agree - cooperation.