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>I understand you then. And I agree with you, about Sistahs
>defining their own destinies, and not having Brothahs define
>their place in the world FOR them. It seems to me though,
>that a Sistah would WANT to take on certain roles w/in their
>families. A Brothah should not have to TELL you that. But
>that's just me. All Sistahs don't want families, and many
>Sistahs don't even want men these days. I acknowledge that.
>I know you are not saying that though. I think you are
>saying that you want a Brothah who is liberated enough to
>respect you doing your own thang, and be supportive of that,
>whether you decide to be a housewife, or a CEO. Is that
>correct?

Exactly. Exaaaaactly. I think about this all of the time. I do want a family, and I do want a career. I do want to do some typical things and stay at home with my kids their first couple of years. Not just because that is what is expected, but I want to be there for all of it you know? Luckily I plan on writing so it won't be that hard...but still I think you know what I am getting at.

I wonder if I will ever be able to find a brother who could really accept that and would be willing to look outside of the typical family situation and find new and creative ways of running the household that would benefit us all. And I think I hit on a big point here - how many brothers do you think worry about that?