>>Cheating on your wife most certainly IS a matter for the
>>community, for a union between man and woman, is the
>>foundation for the start of a family(children), and families
>>collectively are what make up our community. That is why
>>when a Sistah's man 'steps out' she: a.) turns to her mother
>>for support b.) turns to her Sistah-friends for advice, or
>>vice-versa. It's a COMMUNITY issue anytime a home becomes
>>broken, and cheating puts a family in danger of ending up
>>broken. That is ALSO why in African-American marriage
>>ceremonies, the minister will often speak to the church
>>before pronouncing the couple man and wife, and advise them
>>that there is a collective responsibility to keep this union
>>in tact. I have seen that in many African-American wedding
>>ceremonies. Why? Because a union of two is NOT just between
>>the two people. It's between their families. It's between
>>their respective neighborhoods. It's a matter for the whole
>>community! I don't know how whitefolks do it. For US though,
>>marriage CLEARLY is understood to be a matter for the
>>community. That is why women for YEARS have written into
>>Essence magazine appealing to other Sistahs to STOP sleeping
>>with married men. If the men won't live up to a certain
>>standard, according to married Sistahs, they appeal to the
>>women with whom the husbands try to cheat to have the
>>courage and discipline to say 'No'. What is that other than
>>an appeal from married Sistahs to the Black community, for
>>assistance in keeping marriage, and it's sacredness, in
>>tact?
>
>That nice that you think that way. But in the real world you
>could get killed messing around in someones marital affairs.
>Understand if I cheat on my wife yo can tell me its not a
>good thing to do. But uh if you were to tell my wife hey
>your husband is cheating you might catch a bullet in the
>ass. Its cool to look after the kids in the neighborhood and
>steer them the right way. As far as what to grown people do
>you gotta stay outta that.
>Well Like ive stated before that church, spiritual, or
>islamic laws dont mean ANYTHING to me. I dont believe in it
>so you talking to the wrong brother about church.

"The camel never sees its own hump but that of its brothers is always before its eyes"- N.African proverb