There just can't be any common ground, either this being is all loving or he isn't. You can't be all loving and vengeful at the same time. And this concept of heaven and hell is so flawed logically, do all people that do not accept whatever relgion go to hell, if so then god has done them a grave injustice because it was no fault of their own that they were not exposed, if so then those who were exposed to religion but chose not to follow it were done an injustice because god knew they were not going to because of predistination. The whole argument is flawed and don't give me that faith stuff, I think religion is like taking a multiple choice test and saying well since i dont know i'm going to guess, sometimes the best answer is we don't know yet.