I've known a lot of veterans, and have always disliked my choice of simply keeping my mouth shut around them.

Of all the antiwar ideas I believe with, and have read about, I have yet to read anything that attempts to take away from the suffering endured by soldiers on either side.

But that's always the response, isn't it? -You better not say that around anyone that was there.
My boss is a Vietnam vet who had been in a few helicopter crashes and was in the back seat of a birddog (if you know what that is, spooky shit) and even has the yellow ribbon on his car.
I don't imagine he's ever taken my anti war statements as a personal offense, and I'd be shocked if anybody did.
To imagine that speaking out against war, present or past, is speaking out against soldiers is as ridiculous as the idea that speaking out against our government is insulting the population.