I *specifically* said in my post that women need to make better choices. I know I did. So what's your point? I'm not disagreeing there, but the DL issue is HOGWASH and I will continue to say it, and has *nothing* to do with the discussion surrounding women MAKING BETTER CHOICES.

And who gives a shit about secrecy... you should care about whether he's sleeping around -- WHOMEVER he's sleeping with -- unprotected, if YOU are sleeping with HIM unprotected. Matters not who he caught it from, only matters that if you're not protected he can give it to you.

Folks forget, dudes get HIV from a woman, too.