>>sometimes it's about how the other person's issues factor
>in.
>
>god knows i've been learning that the hard way lately.
>
>ppl come into relationships w/ baggage. and one person's
>"negotiation" might wind up another's "belligerence" or
>whatever.


Well, I'm a brat. I've always been clear about that. I know alot of Brothahs would not be able to deal w. me. But I don't need "alot", only a few, or one. I know when I'm being belligerent, and that's when I feel that I am not being heard, or am being disregarded. I know when I'm being demanding, which goes back to that brat-thing, again. When I ask, I'm being humble. It's the negotiation-piece, that I have yet to learn, but I'll get it. I just need 2 focus, & have opportunities 2 practice it.