I am strange guy...I actually dealt with all of my girlfriends
as if they could be my wife and the mother of my children. I
always looked at dating and especially sex as something very
serious so I never quite got the player thing. The
implications of emotions, material things and sex were things
I really thought about and communicated with the women I
dated. So my value of women was/is very high. I always thought
women ruled the world but for some reason, always allowed men
to take the credit. And this was before you added the whole
"bearer of life" thing.

Answering your question: I'm not asking women to love men who
give nothing in return. That would be supporting abuse. That's
not what I'm talking about. I'm saying what if women raised
the bar of who they selected to be with for the long or short
time and not date drug dealers. Appeal to the man, not what he
does. A man who hustles hard on the street has the same
ability to hustle hard in a corporate environment or in his
own business, etc. Appeal to his person, his humanity. I
believe women have the power (individual and collectively) to
change men. I've seen it too many times first hand to not
believe in the power of a women.

Back to your question: I'm not saying go without. I'll
actually asking you to up the ante. If you want to talk about
building a community and the foundation and legacy of a
family, drug dealing has no place in that. It tears
down...eventually the family loses to the world of the drug
trade, sometimes in a big way (somebody dies). That's what I
want to stop happening...what if women only dated men that got
their hustle on another way?