I don't think this issue is about being picky or sensitive. I believe its about insisting against the kind of arrogance that dictates, "I will pronounce YOUR peoples' names however I please because that's how I talk. I care not if there is a proper way to address you BOY." It is akin to saying, this is my country and in MY country I will call you however I want, thus YOU "Ay-rab boy" should stop being offended.