In some cases failure to be a good man/woman doesn't have much to do with ones desire to help in "the struggle". Dogs come in all flavors. It may seem as though one can't truly be down with helping society rise if they bring down their mate, but sadly for some the two things are exclusive. this is in no way to to excuse foul behavior, but one must never forget that people are just people. selecting "righteous" as a desirable quality won't necessarily get you anyone better than "smart", "fine", "tall" or whatever else would. Any label or a trait is just a starting point. It's the melange of a person's experiences and the fruit of the life they lead which should be a guide when deciding if someone is worthy to select as a mate. And even then, because you can't predict the future, it's still a crapshoot.

as a guy who has been through the trenches of trying to find somebody, and who now stands at the threshold of marriage, i can look back and remember being dogged and dogging. I made mistakes and I caught a few bad ones. But now that my season has come I need to look back and learn the lessons that those experiences taught me. To all of you who are looking I say: be diligent, be patient, and prepare yourself for the day when YOUR blessing arrives.

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BooDaah
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step 2. inform others
step 3. discuss the problem
step 4. DISCUSS SOLUTIONS
step 5. EXECUTE SOLUTIONS
step 6. evaluate how well the solution worked
step 7. start over at 1 until desired result is accomplished.
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