this sounds like some pseudo-reverse psychology.

my argument:
- Black people , specifically, must consciously resist notions of romantic love because its western. and western ideology has raked us over the coals from centuries.

- if you're Black and your relationship is based on romance, in whole or in large part, then you have fucked up politics.

- fucked up politics stands in opposition to Black solidarity.

now to your point about interracial couples. i've encountered very few couples, same race or otherwise, that seek to understand politics perspective of their relationship because we've all been thoroughly colonized and have false hope in romantic love. of those couples not one was interracial and the conversation i've had with folk that date interracially, generally in my experiences, are understand or convey as largely romantic. with such euphemisms as "we're so in love" "s/he is for me" "s/he completes me" etc. pick any cliche you want.

that's my observation.

peace.