There are those sistas, though I've only seen them on Queen Latifah and Jenny Jones, who claim that all brothas are worthless or ugly. This is classic self-hate as well, and is unfortunate. I just think that the effects of socialization (i.e. White women = beauty) affect Black women in terms of finding anyone, because all men of all races are subject to it. One could argue that, "Well White men = power and money according to that same socialization." Which is true, but I also think, and this is just opinion, that White men as a whole are much less likely to approach a Black women in the first place, than a Black male is likely to approach a White woman. I think the latter is much more common, and I can't explain that exactly. The bottom line is that any relationship, regardless of which gender is what race, that is based on the desire of one of the partners to "escape" who he or she really is, and to detach from his or her history or community is not a healthy one, individually or collectively. Any relationship spawned from self-hate, even ones that aren't interracial, is doomed.

>>It's sad but I feel that
>>the first idea, the fact
>>that the socialization of Whiteness
>>as beautiful and smart is
>>powerful, probably explains most interracial
>>(Black male/White female) relationships, which
>>is nobody's fault in the
>>actual relationships.
>
>What do you think about White
>male/Black female relationships?


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"A man is free, or he is not. There can be no apprenticeship for freedom."
--Amiri Baraka

Jesus was Black ya'll...no joke.

"Oh no, here comes that sun again. That means another day, without you my friend. And it hurts to look into the mirror at myself, and it hurts even more to have to be with somebody else.
And it's so hard to do, and so easy to say,
But sometimes, sometimes, you just have to walk away."
--Ben Harper

The worst Okayplayer mistake my friend ever made? I went with three of my friends to the Saturday Oakland Okayplayer show back in November. Anyway, we got separated into groups of two during the show, and after the show, we couldn't find each other, and after spending a weekend together, me and my sistas were a little testy anyway. Not finding each other directly after the show further aggravated the situation. So anyway, one of my friends was hella pissed, and decided to walk in front of all of us. On the way back to the car, she pushed through a group of brothas who were chillin' by the side of the theater, hella mad-doggin' folks, and one of the dudes (shorter, light-skinded) in an effort to cheer her up said, "Hey, smile!" She turned around and gave this dude the ugliest, most sarcastic smile in the world, and then kept walking. After walking in utter silence for a block, one of my other friends who watched the exchange said, "Why did you dis Scratch like that?"