>Love is "the merging of self
>with the other" or "becoming
>one with the world" which
>incumbent on a highly spiritual
>experience.

I can get with that. And I have loved like that. Don't get me started. But when I say I "love" someone, I have had that experience with them.


>This directly contradicts the
>European self-image of the "individual,"
>importance of materialism over spiritualism
>(i.e. separation of SPIRIT from
>all aspects of life).

ok....but uh, I don't live like that.


>This obvious contradiction at such a
>base level leads Westerners to
>make statements like "you can't
>help who you fall in
>love with." "Love" becomes
>a highly philosophic and abstract
>conception that allows the European
>to "talk" about it but
>not experience it. And
>when it is "experienced" it
>is unfamiliar and disregarded. For
>instance the "universal love" that
>a Christian professes is a
>farce. In the same breath
>they are called to destroy
>the "heathens" which has been
>done through physical death and
>torture or by conversion, which
>to the African is one
>in the same.

ok...but wtf does that have to do with what I said? or with the post in general???

>
>Besides the statement "you can't..." contradicts
>itself. EVERYONE CHOOSES who
>they want to "love." Noone
>"falls" in love with someone
>who they would not want
>to be involved with.

that's true. I'm not arguing that. What I was saying was that people, regardless of "race" or "color" do not always fit the mold they are put in by society. Therefore, "love," as the spiritual connection you profess it to be, can be felt/experienced/acted on/whatever by any two people who define love in that same way.


>This statement "mystifies" love so
>the European can "think" they
>can experience it.
>
>ACTIONS speak louder than words.

nobody said they didn't.

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When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers
and for a time they seem invincible but in the end, they always fall -- think of it, ALWAYS. ~~Mahatma Gandhi