>of course
>we may very well be
>the only ones is discussing
>this topic, but that's simply
>because we are the only
>ones that have so many
>options when comes to styling
>hair. And what's odd or
>backwards about these options? Nothing
>in my opinion.

It's not about "options" when we have that distinct separation between "natural" and "processed" hair. Everyone has countless styling options. But Black women are the only women who, in DROVES, chemically alter the makeup of their hair in order to make it "easier to manage" or more "presentable". And that begs the question "why?".


>A relaxer is a choice. I
>was never bombarded with anything
>and I have never felt
>that way either...not saying you
>said that I was.

Maybe you haven't. But you have to ask some questions. How old were you when you started perming (if you do)? Why did you continue to do it? Why was it done in the first place? Where are you from? Is "natural" hair stigmatized there? Accepted? What are your family's/friend's attitudes about "natural" hair? etc.


>Who's praising the caucasian and asian
>women for their hair?

A whole society. How many beauty/fashion/glamour mags do you see w/ a nappy headed sista in them (Essence doesn't count)? Things are changing now, but try finding them 10--even 5--years ago.


>I've
>always believed that everything is
>about individual perception.

Yes and no. Societal pressures are a bitch. Either you're glossing over that because you fit the mold, or you're one of the few that have surpassed that thinking. If you do fit that mold, you have to step outside of it to see where the author of the post was coming from.




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