you are so right. what i meant when i said that quote is that they do not use something like that to divide them. everytime we say my sister or brother is trying to dress white, talk white, act white, straighten our hair like whites, etc. the gap between us gets bigger and bigger. they feel they can do what ever they want to us to our culture simply b/c they still control both the politcal and financial power. in some instances we need to look past some of the issues like good hair vs bad hair, understand why we have such a mentality, teach our children to be proud whether kinky, straight, or wavy and educate in the game of survival and obtaining success in all realms.