>"If we were to take the
>best parts of everything learned
>from our experiences thus far
>in life (and on the
>boards), how would we best
>transmit these ideas and what
>exactly would be taught?"

impose your "rules" on them early, and be consistent, provide reasoning when it's appropriate, then let go more and more after a certain age. from then on, simply advise, when prompted for assistance (if ever)

let the bastards become whatever the hell they are going to on their own. you gave them a map, they can discard it, modify it, or adhere to it.

simple.