a long-running explanation for using faggot is as a joking term of endearment. not unlike the word motherfucker.

I'm sorry you assumed I meant to make a point about you (I've not been above using either term myself), I just don't believe there are many nuances to either word. debating their offensiveness level is usually insipid ("well, faggot is less offensive than gook" / "jew is not derogatory!") and best avoided.

and despite what the dictionary says, we both know that retard is not used in the same way as stupid or dumb -- it specifically evokes a comic image of mentally disabled people. been that way since kickball was invented.