here's my two cents. and it is from a male perspective, so please bear with me.<P>men are naturally, and culturally adversarial. in any argument, you will see men cut each other off, and step on each other's toes to get across a point. there is a natural inclination amongst us to try to establish ourselves as "the upper" in our interpersonal relations with each other.<P>in doing so, words like faggot is not only seen as emasculating, but as the ultimate put down. in this new age of consciousness, and with our media being soaked with girl-girl imagery (which men don't complain about) and gaining in guy-guy acceptance, MEN lead the charge in being vocal. and the women who are vocal are more masculine, so they too make their voices heard. <P>so, women, being the incredibly intelligent back biting creatures that they are, decide to let a bitch or two slide. it's an amazing up hill battle to try to combat the word bitch, and they know who they can and can't change. the (black?)thought seems to be, "he's not talking about me, i ain't no bitch!" and under her breath she whispers to her *girlfriend* "but i do know some bitches though."<P>i mean, shit, com is pretty on point, and women *know* that he doesn't mean them, right? so why shouldn't he be sexy?<P>***<BR>and as far as i'm concerned, nerdy computer literate verbose fashion plates with muffin like asses have never been in. but at least i could catch a break before all these darkies and their dreads ended up on my tv screen. ((if you take this line too seriously, just read my bio or something))<P>that doesn't mean that hak isn't sexy by any means, but it's gettin difficult on us 'tweeners who aren't lightbright w/the curls, or dark diesel and dreaded.<BR>_______________________________________<BR><a href="http:://www.h8r.com" target="_blank">http:://www.h8r.com<;/a> <BR>((soon to cease existence in a paper world, the h8r will only be digital...doo doo doo doo doo))