But I really suggest that next time you define your words first. This could probably have been avoided had people understood what the words you / they were using meant.

If you are interested in the history of sexuality, try Foucault's trilogy by that name, it's a bit hard going at times, but exceptionally interesting. It's been a very long time, but I believe was very informative too. I think I am gonna buy a copy myself as it goes...

The more anyone learns, the more they see that that which is "normal" or "right" or "moral" are really just the walls which keep certain people walking certain paths for as long as they fail to ask the question why.