>>
>>#1 Sometimes it isn't exactly easy to find a sitter.
>
>That sounds like a personal problem.
>
> ("Then
>>Don't go!")...well yeah, but if its someone you're close
>with
>>then its pretty shitty.
>
>Kinda sucks, but again- that's your problem.
>
>Especially if there is pressure/guilt
>>to go from those getting married. Can't take it personal
>when
>>folks decline an invite to your highly regulated wedding...
>
>These are caveats that do have relevance to a specific
>situation, but still... if you can't find a sitter, that's
>your problem, and such is life.
>
>>#2 I've literally never been to a "kids allowed" wedding
>that
>>the kids negatively impacted the shit. Folks in here acting
>>like kids turn that shit into Chuck-e-cheese.
>
>This is 100% irrelevant.
>
>>#3 I think its kind of entertaining to watch a couple try to
>>make their wedding day some perfectly controlled event.
>I've
>>also never known such a couple to last *shrugs*
>
>Also irrelevant.
>
>>#4 Those adults that, for some reason, strongly require time
>>with "no kids" just have to wait till like 9 when the most
>of
>>us dirty, filthy breeders go home.
>>
>>
>>But yeah, I'm always skeptical of the longevity of any
>couple
>>trying to put on the perfect/ideal/borderline choreographed
>>wedding. The shit aint prom. Yeah put on the wedding you
>>want but at some point grow the fuck up. Its just a day.
>
>All of this sounds like you rationalizing, trying to justify
>your selfish desire for the married couple to cater to you,
>and not themselves.
>

I don't care that much, just giving a different perspective because I've seen a couple get offended/stressed when several of their friends with kids couldn't go because of their own rules.

So, my main point is that if there are couples out there who want to set rules, then don't act in any way negative when some people can't go.

In other words

"No Kids for our perfect day that we will forget in a year or 2"

= we can't go

which, as you pointed out = only our problem

THEN

we can't go because of your rules = don't be surprised/bummed/whatever when we can't go. Don't make it your problem by feeling a certain way when folks can't show.

Its not that serious.

I'm asking no one to cater to me, I'm just in the corner judging *shrugs*