>>#1 Sometimes it isn't exactly easy to find a sitter.
>("Then
>>Don't go!")...well yeah, but if its someone you're close
>with
>>then its pretty shitty. Especially if there is
>pressure/guilt
>>to go from those getting married. Can't take it personal
>when
>>folks decline an invite to your highly regulated wedding...
>
>"Highly regulated" ? They chose not to invite people's kids.
>Who they prolly barely even know. Who they'd be paying for.


There are levels, man. Yeah if I "barely know" someone I'm not going to care and neither are they.

But if its someone who we are close with, and know my kids, and say no kids allowed, AND get offended that we aren't going??

Or even bummed. Like, you set the rules you had to have thought that ruled some people out.

In your situation the couple getting married completely understands people not going.

I've experienced the opposite. My point is if you say "no kids allowed" don't get aggy when we have to skip.

You really disagree with that?

>
>Do you consider it "highly regulated" if a friend of yours who
>may not be as close with the bride/groom isn't invited ? Who
>the hell are you to judge those decisions ?

WTF?

Why are you taking this so seriously?

It honestly seems like you are projecting something here.

You never judge anyone's decisions?



>
>
>>Always funny to get the "Wait, you're not coming!?!?" text.
>>Motherfucker, you said my kids weren't allowed! Fuck Ima
>do?
>
>Have you ever actually gotten that text ? And if so, once you
>made clear that it's too much of a hardship to attend because
>of your family situation (something most people would
>understand and be sympathetic to once described to them) did
>they continue to judge you ? If so, you have some pretty
>shitty friends.
>
>Just like it's shitty for you guys to judge your friends for
>decisions they made for their day which they are paying for.

WTF man.

Literally everyone is judging in here. You just judged everyone in here with kids, me personally, and now my shitty friends.

Why can you judge and not me?



>
>
>>#2 I've literally never been to a "kids allowed" wedding
>that
>>the kids negatively impacted the shit. Folks in here acting
>>like kids turn that shit into Chuck-e-cheese.
>
>Cool. Still not your choice.

Cool. Never said it was. Just pointing out I think such a rule is silly.


>
>
>>#3 I think its kind of entertaining to watch a couple try to
>>make their wedding day some perfectly controlled event.
>I've
>>also never known such a couple to last *shrugs*
>
>Judgey.

Again, everyone is in here judging- including you.

My last line is a fact though. All three couples I can think of are done or on shaky ground.

Call me judgy all you want. I think its silly when couples try to make their wedding day some perfect event. And you judge me for that, so round and round we go.

>
>
>>#4 Those adults that, for some reason, strongly require time
>>with "no kids" just have to wait till like 9 when the most
>of
>>us dirty, filthy breeders go home.
>
>Or they just decided that, with limited invites to hand out,
>they'd rather the invites go to other members of their family
>or friends, rather than kids they may not have ever even met
>before.
>
Yeah, again- there are levels.

Inviting super casual friends with a single "plus one" or whatever is completely different than banning all kids.

You keep saying "its not your choice Stadiq"

No shit. But it is my choice to not go of course, and also my choice to kill time on Okayplayer sharing my perspective on the situation.



>
>>But yeah, I'm always skeptical of the longevity of any
>couple
>>trying to put on the perfect/ideal/borderline choreographed
>>wedding. The shit aint prom. Yeah put on the wedding you
>>want but at some point grow the fuck up. Its just a day.
>
>Judgey.

LOL and so are you man. You okay?