>Feel you on all of the above...
>And we went out of our way to accommodate everyone that we'd
>invited to our wedding....
>In retrospect though....I kinda wish we'd just been selfish
>with it and done something completely different and saved some
>loot, time, energy and drama.

You definitely should've.


>Cousin had a wedding last year...and I'm really convinced that
>these young folks just don't have any sort of understanding
>about planning & etiquette...

Apparently neither do you or MEAT ? Along with a lack of understanding that it's not your money, and therefore not up to you.


>SHe did the "No Kids" thing...despite 95% of her cousins
>having young kids...

... so what. It's not the cousins' wedding. It's hers.


>She had it set for OUTSIDE in North Carolina in
>JULY!...TF?!!??

THE HORROR !


>AND she put on the invite...BLACK TIE ONLY! WTF???
>We scoffed so much at that invite when it came in the
>mail....

While I also scoff at black tie weddings, it's NOT MY WEDDING so I oblige the requests of the people paying thousands of dollars for the day.


>We went doe...
>She ended up having it indoors at the last minute...
>And fck a Black Tie.....I rolled up in a linen suit like
>WHHHHuuuuut...

Then you're an insufferable asshole.