The second you start inviting people to activities it becomes a group day. It’s fashionable to say x,y,z event is all about them
But realistically it’s not. People don’t leave their personhood behind to celebrate your activities.
It’s why when I had my wedding I had it in the middle of the city, so that half the people wouldn’t have to rent cars just to get around for a one off event.
It’s why you have vegan and vegetarian options
It’s why you make considerations for how long people will be standing
Or dress codes for weather
Or accessibility options for your others friends
Or you’re careful around recovered alcoholics not putting drinks right on the table


You already make a hundred mini concessions to your friends and family.