CJ is not trying to attach herself to experiences she isn't or wasn't privy too. Rachel is. That's all the distinguishing I need.

If Rachel went about self-identifying without laying claim to experiences she didn't have....I'd have no problem with it.

I have to admit....I was kinda confused where I stood on this before but I feel clear now. It's really not that complicated.

If CJ said 'I hated school because, like all young girls, they encouraged me to take home economics and discouraged me from the maths and sciences'....I'd call bullshit on her too. And by 'calling bullshit'...I mean to say that my perception of her experience will not match what she self-identifies as. Of course, CJ isn't doing that and I've never met or heard any other trans person attempting it either.