is part of the problem the distinction between race and culture? I mean....what does it mean to say 'I feel like a black man'. Isn't that a way of saying "I identify with black culture". It doesn't mean 'I think I have black skin"

I guess it doesn't provide the distinction you're looking for though. A transmale does not say 'I think I have a vagina'. They say "I identify with the gender roles that have been assigned to people with vaginas".

I don't know. I can't make the distinction. I tried to tackle it from a couple angles and have to admit....kept coming up blank.

I imagine that the lbgt community has language that differentiates between gender and race identities. I'd like to hear it too.