the 'big black guy' thing wasn't so much to damage your
esteem, and i don't see that as a negative (i live in a
predominately black neighborhood, and am myself
big & black).

i just didn't necessarily see anything SO egregious
about the scenario.

we can go w/awkward & uncomfortable. but that can happen
to anyone.

what i homed in on was this string of complaints, & i took into
account that the bouncer is familiar w/you and has never had any
cause to kick you out.

it only leaves several options which probably point to
the unfair or unreasonable:

>From the way you told the story, the only things that might
>have tipped the scales were the things that had nothing to do
>with what you said.
>So that just leaves:
>A) Your appearance i.e. Big and black in your case
>B) Your tone
>C) The girl's mental state at the time


i don't know anything about seattle good/bad, so i'm
left to give you the benefit of the doubt as well.

but if you're not at least cognizant that ppl can and will
(sub)consciously behave differently toward you b/c of your
stature then you'll be left w/much confusion & many
questions.

>Appearance can
>play a role in the effect of a person's words but if you
>insist that's not the case, I'll just give you the benefit of
>the doubt. Maybe Seattle is just a post-racial haven