"But what do I tell my kids" is such a fucking cop-out. Shifting the lack of understanding onto them like it's their problem.

Here's the thing about kids: they don't know shit about shit. They ask questions about EVERYTHING.

Kids look in the sky and ask about stars, but you're not Neil DeGrasse Tyson. You answer in terms they can understand and move on. You don't go yelling "Oh nooo, how do I explain astrophysics to my 5 year old!!" It's not a big deal.

You assuming that telling them that gay people exist will shatter their minds is your problem, not theirs.

And lets be honest, you just don't want to tell your kids about gay people because you're scared they'll see it as an option and it will "turn" them gay. Stop pretending it's a child's comprehension issue, when it's an ignorant adult one.