My gaydar has been broken for a while since moving to NYC. Guess it makes me question everything rightfully and unrightfully so. I have (male) friends who claim to be bisexual but since I've known them? I've only seen them have relationships with men. And I have gay male friends who only date guys on the DL? Smh...

So I met a guy on Tinder a few months ago; upon first date? I thought he was gay. Lol Nice and attractive guy but I honestly thought he was gay. He'll say weird stuff like, "Hey girl!", "You better werk!", and one night at dinner he tried to say that our very OUT and feminine waiter was NOT gay. Lol He then argued that he has a good "gaydar"?

But again VERY nice guy and he claims to be very attracted to me.

Key thing I don't want to leave out* He owns a sextoy site. It's actually very nice and not your normal sleazy site. And he sells very nice, expensive products. He has a normal 9 to 5 as well. But he very facinated by the adult industry. Jokes about doing porn and watches a lot "Girls with black butts" porn. Caught it on his laptop one night. Lol

Anyway, during having an intimate conversation he mentions he likes anal play... Hmm ok. And he even said when I asked, "So would you let penetrate you with a strap on?", "Yes.".

But he says he often doesn't tell women that because they automatically assume he's gay. But he doesn't like men. And though I get that in logic. I guess I want to ask him; even if he isn't attracted to a man, would he let a man penetrate him. Especially if he doesn't have a woman that's open to that.

Then my mind wonders... If he would let me use a strap-on? Does dick arouse him? If his dick gets/stays hard knowing there's a dick around him; is he one of those I'm not gay I'm just a freak guys? Lol

Anyway, it's nothing too serious that I'm "worried" about just very curious about. I don't think there's a one answer or a right answer but I'm interested to see what's OKPs opinions and amongst women vs straight men vs gay men.