My gaydar has been broken for a while since moving to NYC. Guess it makes me question everything rightfully and unrightfully so. I have (male) friends who claim to be bisexual but since I've known them? I've only seen them have relationships with men. And I have gay male friends who only date guys on the DL? Smh...

So I met a guy on Tinder a few months ago; upon first date? I thought he was gay. Lol Nice and attractive guy but I honestly thought he was gay. He'll say weird stuff like, "Hey girl!", "You better werk!", and one night at dinner he tried to say that our very OUT and feminine waiter was NOT gay. Lol He then argued that he has a good "gaydar"?

But again VERY nice guy and he claims to be very attracted to me.

Key thing I don't want to leave out* He owns a sextoy site. It's actually very nice and not your normal sleazy site. And he sells very nice, expensive products. He has a normal 9 to 5 as well. But he very facinated by the adult industry. Jokes about doing porn and watches a lot "Girls with black butts" porn. Caught it on his laptop one night. Lol

Anyway, during having an intimate conversation he mentions he likes anal play... Hmm ok. And he even said when I asked, "So would you let penetrate you with a strap on?", "Yes.".

But he says he often doesn't tell women that because they automatically assume he's gay. But he doesn't like men. And though I get that in logic. I guess I want to ask him; even if he isn't attracted to a man, would he let a man penetrate him. Especially if he doesn't have a woman that's open to that.

Then my mind wonders... If he would let me use a strap-on? Does dick arouse him? If his dick gets/stays hard knowing there's a dick around him; is he one of those I'm not gay I'm just a freak guys? Lol

Anyway, it's nothing too serious that I'm "worried" about just very curious about. I don't think there's a one answer or a right answer but I'm interested to see what's OKPs opinions and amongst women vs straight men vs gay men.

I miss you!

I hope all is well with you and the fam

Fam is good and much better.

there's really not a whole lotta sh#t I'd be comfortable with goin on in that area...unless I was ghey.

I'm basing that off of his mannerisms and not his sexual proclivities.

Assuming he just likes being pegged by chicks then he isn't gay because he still likes women.

Dude just might not be "masculine" in the bedroom.

I classify those types as the same type of cats who like dominatrices.

As long as he don't start calling you "Steve" or some shit, it might just be his particular kink.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

I mean..wtf

What else he need to do for you to get it?

Hell yeah he's gay

Maybe he likes you too but if he likes you fucking him in the ass...that man is gay.

Period. The end. Not that there is anything wrong with that


does it really matter?

for all my fans who keep my name in their mouth: http://i.imgur.com/v2xNOpS.jpg

or do you have sex w/a whole person?

if you only have sex w/body parts, would you have sex w/a guy w/a pie (aka FTM transman who hasn't had bottom surgery)?

would you have sex w/a guy holding a Fleshlight?

if not, why not?

You assume I have sex that's your first mistake if you haven't deduced by my charming online persona I'm kinda hard to get along with IRL


does it really matter?

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so, Buck Angel is a "Pie"? I never knew that.

at the sight of a naked man...he's not gay.

he just likes his prostate stimulated.


I didn't read the post, I'm just answering the question...now I'm going to go read.

And I think I read something like this in Dan Savage's column one time. Something along the lines of:

A guy can like it in his ass from his girl (pegging), but not from a man. Cause there is a massive difference between having a woman with a strap on doing you versus being intimate with a dude who's shoving his junk in you.

But ionno. Your dude might be gay or bi. Can't call it.
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i'm gay as pink rain and i don't want to be pegged by a woman. ever.

in life.

ever.

never.

for what?

my god.

never.

just the thought....

eww.

fuck no.

nope.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

so i know i wouldn't like it.

It's okay man. This is a safe space for your to come out in.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

i don't actually like dudes - i just like being boned in the butt and i have been chasing after men for the last 20 yrs b/c i'm so ashamed that i want women to do me in the bum that i suppressed my heterosexuality and lived as a gay man.

and now i can be free to be ME!

Quite frankly I'm glad that times are changing and we can discuss these things in public.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zy8dUJEOqos

y'all fools for that shit

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

we gotta change the name of the mascot after we stage our coup d'ecole.

Or make it the Gargoyles. Those are also every where and it describes the attractiveness of most of the students.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

YES.

when i run the school i'm doing 4 things off the top:

1. changing the mascot to the Phoenix.

2. returning the athletic program to Division I.

3. joining the Big Ten athletic conference.

4. expansion of the Odyssey Scholarship program.

I don't even like college football and that pissed me off.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

that's hilarious.
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it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.

not compassionate....only polite.

I am not like you at all and i cannot pretend.

biologically male
has a dick
looks like a woman.


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i like men. i'm not into women.

One that looks and sounds like a man, muscular pecs instead of titties but still has a pussy?


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R.I.P. Disco D

i've been attracted before but haven't found a situation where there's mutual interest so i dunno.

>Cause there is a massive difference between having
>a woman with a strap on doing you versus being intimate with a
>dude who's shoving his junk in you.

That logic that "well... if a man wants to fuck you in the ass he'll probably fuck another man in the ass" is similar. There's a huge difference between wanting fuck a woman in the ass vs wanting to fuck a man in the ass.


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R.I.P. Disco D

The Y axis goes from Straight to Gay and the X axis go from submissive to dominate.

And really it's more complex than that. I just use this to keep things straight (*rimshot*) in my head.







"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

but to answer that question:

1. he is however he identifies.

2. gay guys like having sex w/men and seek relationships w/men.

3. gay guys generally don't like having sex w/women and generally don't seek relationships w/women.

4. especially not in New York City.

5. especially when they work in the sex industry.

6. plenty str8 guys like having it in the bum.

7. they like having it in the bum by WOMEN.

8. gay guys don't like having it in the bum by women.

9. the industry makes sex toys for guys who like having it in the bum by women.

10. this guy doesn't sound gay at all.

...now for your real question as i read between the lines.

the guy is not going to leave you for a man b/c he likes it in the bum. the fact that he likes it in the bum doesn't mean he would rather have it in the bum by a real penis as opposed to a toy. b/c the guy doesn't like real penis. b/c he doesn't like men. b/c men are more than a penis.

I'm a FIRM believer in cheaters cheat no matter their sexuality

not necessarily, i mean.

b/c liking it in the bum doesn't mean he likes men. liking it in the bum and liking men are exclusive traits. they don't necessarily go hand-in-hand.

but at the very least he's interested in being dominated to the point of penetration, that's fine if that's his kink

but he needs to be honest if he actually wants men and from all you've said he already displays other questionable tendencies

if society ever arrives at a place where the stigma of gay is gone, people will feel far more comfortable being themselves freely

i don't think this guy necessarily has any problem related to gay stigma.

if anything it's great that we've progressed to a point where a str8 guy can openly be into anal stimulation and can communicate it to a prospective significant other w/o much fear of shaming or stigma.

it's pretty great.

>He'll say weird stuff like, "Hey girl!", "You better werk!", and one night at dinner he tried to say that our very OUT and feminine waiter was NOT gay. Lol He then argued that he has a good "gaydar"?

these are things I've never done with women I've gotten to know

benefit of the doubt says no two straight men act alike, but this dude could also be in denial

>>He'll say weird stuff like, "Hey girl!", "You better werk!",
>and one night at dinner he tried to say that our very OUT and
>feminine waiter was NOT gay. Lol He then argued that he has a
>good "gaydar"?

b/c i know too many gay guys who don't use those phrases, have those conversations or display the mannerisms homeboy displayed per the OP. and i've known str8 guys who've displayed some of "those" mannerisms and who've used those phrases.

I also work with 12 women.

at least 7 of them could get it; but I'm a straight married man.

as in - he likes to engage in sex w/ men or is sexually
attracted to men.

All that other stuff is just personality quirks.

There are a number of gay men who many would assign heterosexuality to because of how they act..."they don't do that 'hey girl!' stuff, nor do they have stereotypical feminized mannerisms that many associate w/ gay men. So are they not gay, then? Of course not, they are gay.

>>He'll say weird stuff like, "Hey girl!", "You better werk!",
>and one night at dinner he tried to say that our very OUT and
>feminine waiter was NOT gay. Lol He then argued that he has a
>good "gaydar"?




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>But he doesn't like men.

then he's not gay

haven't read the OP yet

i dont even know
but hey we're all different i guess

some niggas like a finger up their asses. None of it is gay until a nigga like niggas.

if it's shaped like a pussy,
he'd clearly rather have a woman.

there's no difference between an inanimate sex toy
and the sex organ of a person.

i lost my virginity at age 5 when i grinded against a pillow
that i had fit around my wiener.

I don't know if it was gay sex or straight sex,
because i wasn't thinking about anybody in particular.

of course, there's no such thing as a gay sex act to begin with.

does it really matter?

for all my fans who keep my name in their mouth: http://i.imgur.com/v2xNOpS.jpg

It doesn't matter u define yourself
It matters how ppl u wanna have sex see you

than a fake penis
he'd be equally satisfied.

but you know what i'm getting at.
if it's about the sensation the "modus operandi" matters less.

i had so many of these thoughts in middle school.

there's a dude there.
and how come so many pornos have dudes with big dicks?

if a guy prefers porno with big dicks, is that a gay preference?
shouldn't straight me only technically watch gay lesbian porn if
they want there to be no questions about their straightness?

technically?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKB7vAFTdA8


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

my train of thought is that the OP's line of thinking is patently ridiculous.
Ron White would say that the line of thinking of the OP has some merit, but isn't a big deal.

Genuinely curious. Never dated a guy like him. I think he's awesome but that doesn't stop me from wondering...

SoWhat kinda pegged this

maybe its an ego thing with women as well so to put it like this

he still wants to have sex with YOU
just with a dildo as well
not with another man
he might want more sex with you with other tools
but mainly at the moment he likes to have sex with women with anal play





ya'll gonna have to allow men to want to use all their body parts while having sex
its really not fair to them
you dont necessarily have to like it though
say you simply dont like anus (like i dont like feet)
but it doesn't mean hes gay
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>SoWhat kinda pegged this
>

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

aint no man turning down alladis
*body rolls*

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nothing wrong w/her being squeamish and/or uninterested in pegging a guy w/a toy.

one guy on here doesnt(didn't?) want anal sex and hes gay

another dude loves ass (on women)
had to ask about anal play because i assumed it went hand in hand

realized i had to disconnect all of the assumptions

still a learning process
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there's lots to unlearn and re-learn.

DL guys don't necessarily like it in the bum.

>DL guys don't necessarily like it in the bum.

relax dude

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i'm not convinced you're okay

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Like; I want to pee on somebody but ain't NOBODY peeing on me! Lol

Anyway, I'm just wondering about him just because I did intially think he was gay and now that he's told me this, it makes it even more complex. Lol I have no doubts he's into me. It's just crazy how *I* have evolved as well. Coming from the south I wouldn't normally ever be comfortable around him or with him. But I really enjoy him. I almost don't care but I'm just so intrigued.

It's definitely 2014 lol...

The idea amuses me.

the chances of him reciprocating and letting you pee on him is pretty high

match made in heaven *swoon*

Need to get to know him before I can just pee on him. Though I don't want a relationship any time soon, I really like him. So I treat him different. Lord knows if I hadnt? I'd been pissed on him, and not called the next day. Lol

>I'd been
>pissed on him, and not called the next day. Lol

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I wouldn't want to date someone who I had so a by questions about and I don't think u should either

lol

Or at least they should be, but both are equally politicized.

People are as anti-vegan as they are anti-gay and with every other nuance of both experiences.

But imagine the day where a straight male who wants his straight girl to have sex with him with a strap on is equivalent to a vegetarian saying "you know I kinda want a steak today".

Meat is murder, and meat is pleasure.

Meanwhile half of yall straight and trying to bring another woman into the bedroom, but aint with that "gay shit".

Bad analogy fam

gay shit" but then would invite another woman into the bedroom, because THAT isn't associated with gayness. Even the idea of "running a train" isn't seen as on that gay shit.

But a woman penetrating a man in a sex act = gay?

All I was saying.

loud and wrong
the SAME ones every time!
like theyre obsessed w/ gayness

Aka NO

aka "Im gay but I've never fucked a man so Im not gay because that would be too hard to come to grips with"

Yes, I understand that people are in denial about their sexuality, but I would assume those people are the LEAST likely to ask their woman to pound them in the ass or play around with anything traditionally thought of as "gay".


Call me crazy, but I would assume the first signs of being gay would include being attracted to men, not the urge to be buttfucked

I think dude being like "Nah, I don't think that obviously gay waiter is gay" says something about him.

people if you suspect your man of being gay use this as a gauge


if you think he is in the bathroom taking a hard shit
and looks self satisfied coming out that door
start slipping your dude laxatives
you dont want him getting too comfy in that full anal feeling and release
cause you know
'the ghey'

so ladies slip a laxative from time to time to ensure a warding off
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A gay man who has a woman peg him would be like a straight man asking a dude to hold a fleshlight between his thighs

Attraction determines a person's orientation, not affinity for certain physical sensations

Good, next can you touch on all the homosexual desires you projected on me in the recent past?

You know, the ones you got banned for?

>Good, next can you touch on all the homosexual desires you
>projected on me in the recent past?
>
>You know, the ones you got banned for?

but you're right, a man who endlessly stalks another man for attention online is infinitely gayer than asking a woman to fuck him in the ass

.... his tinkle chute. None of that stops him from getting THAT MONSTER if he so decides to engage in sexual activities with men or other high risk activities.

I wouldn't be into it, so it's best that he find another woman to peg him.

... he probably wouldn't be asking to have his butt stuffed while exclaiming "You better work!" He'd be asking for missionary sex once every at most three months or so with the lights off.

He's not gay. He's probably just, as you said, "a freak." And he's being upfront and honest with you, which is really the best thing one can have in a relationship.

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So, yes.

you DO need that butt plug
relax dude
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Terry McMillan'ed? Are you a fag hag?

sad as hell if she was serious

>sad as hell if she was serious

not sad for me

but seems we need butt plugs for two now
ya'll pressed as shit on this topic

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i feel bad for you
it seems you do worry about the pleasure of a hard shit
damn
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whats next?
keep feeling pressed let it all out
including that shit you are holding one to for fear of the gheys
who knows how far you take your fears
have a laxative
relax
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it really sucks to be you right about now
come on now unclench that anus
its okay
you may judge you
we wont...well not on that score at least
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home and like down and watch your boyfriend get banged out by his homeboy. Maybe they'll let you lick the shit off his dick afterwards.

No homo.

You typed all of that like I care about you're opinion LOL
Try not to enjoy your next hard shit too much
Worrying about being gay is about as deep and as serious as you are
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donuts to their first meeting.

no fan
just noticing your issues
you keep it up though
i'm happy to point this out
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he's just so extra with it. He went extra hard about this pic od my son:

http://instagram.com/p/tBbb7YR0wU/?modal=true

on some Lord Jamar "feminization of the black man shit". Either the nigga got tendencies, he was a victim of the bad touch or both

that shit must hurt
maybe this is why he feels the need to act out and express himself in these ways
he cant help himself
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I'm serious. I have no interest in reading the 18,308,011 replies up in this biatch.


What happened?

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The ignorance and plain ole stupidity knows no end does it. NOT ALL GAY DUDES LIKE THEIR ASS FUCKED WITH..repeat until the stereotype is destroyed.

We are as individually unique as yall. Is a chick that doesn't like giving blow jobs a lesbian??

This is 2014 elevate your mind a little and come out of the 80's.

Pretend that you're the overzealous guy with a big dick and try to tear him out the frame. Then see how he responds afterwards.
Then get back to us ASAP.

4 Better or 4 Worse

Would you check it out just to see TruthThang naked? Or would you feel too gay?
I don't know this just popped in my head. I can't 100% say that I wouldn't click that link....


4 Better or 4 Worse

wrap their asses into pretzels navigating the potential for teh ghey on this



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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2fmZ2C2CdA

4 Better or 4 Worse

How a man & a woman can make a "gay" porn together escapes me.

4 Better or 4 Worse

It's not his strong suit

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b/c...it ain't GP.

not here to judge.

>not here to judge.

afraid you too will be thought of as gay
look at you twisting your tiny brain into a pretzel
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aw
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