>Sometimes there's a function to simply reacting to something
>naturally. Even in the absence of some sort of result-based
>benefit....one can also just allow themselves to be
>annoyed/offended. It's not like he started a fight or
>something....so there's not much negative results from his
>taking offence. He said a 'damn'. Expressed his frusteration
>to his date. Made a post to vent about it. None of which has
>harmful results.
>
>A lot of people have alluded to the idea that I'd sum up as
>'It's not worth worrying about because there's nothing you can
>do about it'. That may be true for some people. But living
>completely logically like that may turn into a form of
>self-repression in it's own right. As long as our reaction is
>not harmful.....it's ok to allow yourself to be hurt/offended
>and vent/express yourself about it. Regardless of in doing
>so, nothing is 'accomplished'. You could argue that the
>accomplishment is in expressing yourself.

I agree, but don't forget that the girls also reacted to something naturally. I don't disagree with him being offended, I would have also been offended. However i have to know when to stress myself out over a situation and when not to. I have remained stressed out from confronting someone for being phobic/cist for days after the incident. It is draining and can be counterproductive, especially when they're not receptive and I'm the one expending energy and emotion.

My perspective is that we can't fight every battle that's presented to us because we will miss out on living our lives. In that moment he seems to have been distracted from fully engaging in the movie (for a time) and fully engaging with his date (for a time). Instead of canoodling and having a lively discussion about the film, his date was talking him down about a situation that he probably had no real opportunity change. The girl's action was meant to distract and elicit a reaction. She succeeded, very well in fact because we weren't even there and we're still talking about it sans her involvement.