the decision to holla at a strange woman has shit to do w/propagation of the species and everything to do w/selfish men feeling entitled to women's attention. period.

>i totally get what they go through

you say that but i don't think you actually get what they go through. or if you do get it but act w/o reflecting on it then your getting it is meaningless. and it doesn't make you an ally.

>but me going through the mental hula hoops of trying
>to figure out if talking to her will potentially ruin her day
>seems kinda of...i dunno..weak is the word im thinking of

then after you decline to holla at that bitch b/c you might ruin her day, go to the gym and max out on the bench press. or go home and do some man chores around your house. or vigorously scratch your balls.

basically get the hell over yourself. your manhood is not in jeopardy if you decline to holla at a strange woman b/c you understand the impact it could have on her. if anything your manhood is enhanced if you incorporate empathy for women in it.