>I don't know if calling that
>person a woman or man just because "they feel like one" as the
>case may be is the right thing.

what difference does it make? what happens if calling her a woman is the 'wrong thing'? who or what is hurt? who suffers if she's 'improperly' called a woman by her own choice?

oh...and plenty trans ppl DO identify as 'trans woman' or 'trans man'. some identify other ways. and there are also intersexed ppl who identify as such.