>your 16 year old without throwing a baby shower celebration.

You calling it a celebration is a choice. Also please explain how a baby shower is somehow neither physical or emotional support if it's what you'd normally do for a baby.

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>maybe I'm missing something but good energy will never have
>the impact good parenting will have once the kid is born.
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You want to treat the child differently to other children based on the manner of conception. If you think they won't ever pick up on that and it won't affect them, it might be nice to roll the dice on their development an absolve yourself from your part in the consequences. I'd rather not take the chance on behalf of a blameless child.