am i the only person here who grew up with a 'no-whites allowed' household & school?

right now, i dont have any white friends to invite to my home. but if i did, i still don't think i'd invite them.

white person in my home? *shudders*

Poll question: when's the last time you had a white person in your home?

Poll result (46 votes) i live with one. so they're always here. (9 votes) Vote i got plenty white friends. all the time. (20 votes) Vote i had one over a couple years ago. i smashed. (5 votes) Vote no white person has ever visited me. unless they're a contractor. (12 votes) Vote

and smashed

your infinite assholery would be impressive if it weren't so vile.

and oh...i boned a white guy on my couch 2 weeks ago.

^^^lmao.... too easy. too fucking easy. ^^^

or a gay churches description of heaven

>your infinite assholery would be impressive if it weren't so
>vile.
>
>and oh...i boned a white guy on my couch 2 weeks ago.

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One fine day Mr.Kettle arrived home to find a letter in the mailbox from his neighbor Mr.Pot. Upon opening the envelope and reading the letter within he felt somewhat confused as it simply stated "You black as shit!!"

My son's good friends happen to be white.

@ 5 years ago
before him...the police

other than that 0

I don't have white friends

Don't let them in!!

then his moms came and scooped him up Saturday afternoon.

Demon girl


No dudes tho. I don't have white friends like that

i had a white dude in my house last week.

& he brought his dog wit him smh

Classmate friend but his momma called my momma and asked for a sleepover. It was a first. It was cool. Except at some point my dad went on a "these white people" rant and didn't know the little boy was in the house.

I think I even stayed over his house. Blew my mind they had milk with their dinner.

That's about it until I got to college.


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Ma

i'm sure i'm the token in some circles but statistically that makes sense for my area and industry
the other way around though? how is that possible unless you still live in the HOOD hood and only congregate with ppl there
cause now even the 'hoods' in most major cities are some what integrated
and what about coworkers and old classmates
no friends or family members married into those circles?

friend in my adult life....cept this one girl who grew up round my way but she pretty much lite skint at this pt

I interact with white folks when I go bar hopping and they be my friend for the night but after that? nah

at work...I've noticed yt folks only tend to kick it with those soft or nerdy types...or they are 'at work cool'

funny but I don't know how ya'll find em lol

To avoid them but It just doesn't happen where I get that close to White people. The white people i interact with at work I would never hang with outside of work or work related functions

we ok...but we live in 2 different worlds

we ok but would never be friends...he a snake

and I aint goin out my way

i'm usually the only blk person on my team so i have no choice i guess
it probably look weird when yall in yall lil cliche going out to get lunch and everybody black
it's bad enough our cities and neighborhoods are segregated but dang yall segregating yallselves at work
voluntarily?
0_0
what yall afraid of, they don't bite
and socializing with others enables them to learn why certain stuff ain't funny/kosher

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. . . If I have something to say when there is a reason involved, I am perfectly willing to talk. Katherine Hepburn

every time a Ferguson/Bmore riot type event happens
i come to work and listen to coworkers* talk about why it's messed up etc
and if someone kind of goes off path a lil bit i steer them back to the right direction
if i wasn't cool with ppl they wouldn't even talk about that stuff around me much less be receptive to my explanations/opinions
i don't see how it can hurt


*admittedly i work with a demographic that stereotypically has above average intelligence, is non religious, and is liberal
that's not always true but mostly in my experience. if you work with conservative meatheads i can see how this would be difficult

that's the only difference between the two.

As far as olive branches go there is no branch for blacks to extend nor is it really for us to extend one IMO. This doesn't mean "hate white folks" it does however mean we should tread lightly in establishing relationships with the vast majority.

There is much we can do as a group to better and improve ourselves and overall condition, but there is much, much, more that has been done to put us into such a position where that's needed. Until that's truly addressed and taught there can be no 'group' outreach.

the yt folks I do encounter or have worked with don't live IN the city but the burbs


we live in 2 different worlds ...


oh...and I work for a VERY large diverse gvt contractor
mostly white then indian and black are tied then asian

In our actual office, I don't even go to because like i said earlier they only kick it with the soft or nerd niggas...they don't speak...they move out the way when I walk thru...avoid eye contact..etc

I just go to the actual gvt agency where WE pretty much any and everywhere in the hierarchy and people(including the white folks) act somewhat normal...not too many yt dudes in my age bracket besides my boss

Together looks weird to you? I don't know what to tell ya, sounds like u got some issues to work out

and yea you're an anti social nigga who only speaks to ppl who look like you
ain't really expecting you to be able to tell me anything

So yeah either dumb or bored could be the only explanations for what u wrote. Either way fuckya

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXIuPlmVBp8

I mean do you go out of your way to befriend white people? Do you find the white people you know go out of their way to befriend you?


Nope white folks are not moving in the for real hood

>and what about coworkers and old classmates

I just looked at my HS grad photo. There are 10 non Black people (3 of them are Latinx) and Nope. I went to a PWI and still Nope LOL

>no friends or family members married into those circles? NOPE


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. . . If I have something to say when there is a reason involved, I am perfectly willing to talk. Katherine Hepburn

unless you meeting ppl on message boards or whatever
but i mean just off family + work yall gotta be meeting them i would assume
i get not being best buddies with ppl you work with but you don't invite them over the crib for cookouts or nothing?
i don't have to know you for 15 yrs for you to come thru with a case and chill with the small talk etc

I haven't worked with a Caucasian contingent for the long term ever.

And even if I did, they wouldn't hang out in Detroit for along time
too scary too crime ridden etc etc
Then as a Black person crossing 8 mile is wrought with drama so why bother

Detroit is the most segregated city in United States with a black-white dissimilarity score of 79.6. Detroit is almost all Black, beside a little Latinx community in the southwest. Whites mostly stick to the suburbs like Grosse Pointe, Dearborn, and Ferndale.

most communities in america are still pretty segregated

and not all majority black communities are south philly/marcy projects.

i don't think that has anything to do with it really
assuming you work in corporate america you are still coming into constant contact with ppl of other races

i dunno, maybe i'm wrong, but in a lot of major northern cities, black is very dichotomous.

You either hood in a black community, or middle class in a private/catholic school, trying your best to fit into some fucked up awkward social environments

And pretty warped views

so I gave them the boot.

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I'm tryna be better off, not better than...

My parents told me on some "who cares about skin color, no druggies or alcoholics. That includes family"

In early 2007. So it's basically been a decade

people there, so normally, its like 1-2 Whites and 12-15 half white light skint folks there.

I don't know if you count Terminex or Vivint, but they been in there before.

I've never smashed a White chick, so they've never been there.

Have been in their houses?

or Craigslist buyer.

and never for long.

it's ALWAYS music related

or maybe older.

she is from Newport News tho...

my brother in law is white too.

but growing up? they could only go on the porch.I was messing with a white girl in HS and she was shocked when I told her I wasn't going to take get to the prom cause she was white. She really had no idea black people could be racist.

Before that it's been a minute. What's crazy is she was over for only like an hour and im still getting random loose strands of hair on me. I don't kno how niggas do it.

. What's crazy is she was over
>for only like an hour and im still getting random loose
>strands of hair on me. I don't kno how niggas do it.

Had one sell me a soft water treatment tank and alkaline faucet. Then again, I only been in my hone since May. I have a small amount of non- Black friends and I would say that only one of them would probably come through. The rest only if I threw a function of some sort.

I may be different than many people, but I kind of don't like having too many people over my house. Color/race, etc. makes no difference.

October 2nd was my baby shower and i have all kinds of friends but this lady who ive known since i was 16 came and helped me decorate and moderated games for me. Her husband also catered the food, but he is black.

I visited a guy in my bands home who is white, his wife and kids are all white...he had clothes he was giving away since his twin boys Holden and Oddly had grown out of them. He also wanted me to record a hook on a song he is working on.

Not sure why any of this is important, but u asked and im bored waiting on my fast food to cook so, i bit.

but im always fascinated by how open-to-whites some of you blacks are.

don't you all know white people are the enemy?

that should be an SOP.

Its about how we respond, and if we feed off hate or grow from it. But thats just how i feel. Like u said, nothing matters.

keep it up and i'll have cyren BAN YOUR MONKEY ASS!

Everyone has good and bad in them. We all choose who wins and when.

But I don't kno where u at with that right assuming ur still involved with the same guy

He looks just like his brother. And me and their father are good. Devoted parents...thats what really matters.

*does a kegel*

But it grew on me, and he is an awesome kid.

Im sure there has to be a story.

But yall had a policy?

Interesting

why would they visit unless they 'had' to?

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or trades men. It's like the Method Man episode of MTV diary, where he said his son is not used to having white ppl in the house, that's how I grew up. I don't really interact with white people outside of work.

Not necessarily something I condone or advocate...but it's a pretty common thing....even in 2015.

Surprisingly, outside of vendors & business related stuff, I can count on one hand the number of times I've had a white guest inside our home over the past 10 years.

Not on some "YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED" .... just on some we don't really have white people in our circle like that.


"Get ready..for your blessing..."

Your social circle is fine, but that's not what the OP says.

"Get ready..for your blessing..."

I mean, that's kind of fkd up my dude...

whether you realize/acknowledge it, or not.

the PTSP that blacks experience has a direct link to the way we've been treated during our stay here.

me typing out *shudders* when it comes to a white person in my home is an honest and rational reaction to the environment.

a traumatic environment

something like this:

http://atlantablackstar.com/2015/07/03/ptsd-and-mental-health-disorders-in-black-people-linked-to-trauma-from-racism-and-violence/

>the PTSP that blacks experience has a direct link to the way
>we've been treated during our stay here.
>
>me typing out *shudders* when it comes to a white person in my
>home is an honest and rational reaction to the environment.
>
>a traumatic environment
>
>something like this:
>
>http://atlantablackstar.com/2015/07/03/ptsd-and-mental-health-disorders-in-black-people-linked-to-trauma-from-racism-and-violence/

Do you think the fact that you dwell so heavily on the bad things about the Black existence has anything to do with deepening your PTSD?


"Get ready..for your blessing..."

i make sure of that.

it's less of a dwell, and more of a code of conduct or an understanding that - 'these people are not your friends'.

i don't want you to think that i'm socially awkward around whites, either.

they eat me up.

i don't think they realize how little i actually care about them, and the stories they share about themselves and their families.

i do a good job of acting interested and all that jazz.

i mean, a white women got me meeting her 22 year old daughter cause her daughter kinda wants to be a designer and just graduated, but don't know what to do with herself or how to start. so the old lady think it's a good idea to start with me.

on a level like that, i play along. it's stupid, but i play along.

i completely understand not having friends/associates from outside your race. it happens. the part i'm questioning, i suppose, is why the hard line stance of "i'm not going to be friends with you because you're white, no matter what."

especially under these circumstances.

i've been tasked with making sure my peoples don't fall for the okie-doke again.

it's a tall task but we gotta start.

in fact, let's not think of what im afraid of, i'd rather think of the greatness that will come when my peoples finally realize their collective and individual worth.

blacks that hang around whites be having some funny ass self esteem.

that aint right.

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somehow an equal amount don't even come into contact with non-whites. So the OP and anyone of a similar stance is sadly just playing the game the same way the majority of the country happens to be.

No harm no foul as they say.

some folks play it by the rules i.e. the OP while others don't.

http://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php?az=show_topic&forum=4&topic_id=12921326&mesg_id=12921326&page=#12921334

I mean...I get the whole not trusting thing...hell...I literally only fully trust TWO people on this entire planet 100%...and that's my wife & my child lol.... But if the white homey wants to kick it with a brother....a brother gonna kick it with the white homey.

"Get ready..for your blessing..."

...

we worked hard to make it so.

If I exclude people that came by for their job, I can't remember a time. Not intentionally, it just doesn't happen.

One thing that killed me about bein the majority all of my life is I still feel a little uncomfortable around white folks.

you REALLY trying to put your whole guard around some white jokers?

>One thing that killed me about bein the majority all of my
>life is I still feel a little uncomfortable around white
>folks.

I was just talking to someone over the weekend about how I don't understand "white american culture." I just don't get it. I think it's (what I interpret as) passive-aggressiveness. That shit just doesn't fly in the "black community," so when I see folks giving me the fake smile, pretending not to see me or making some comment that I'm not sure is "coded" or not I automatically say "fuck it" and stop trying to interact.

I remember some random post u made a long time ago about feeling you were shucking when she kept asking you to do something funny and u obliged. I could be thinking about someone else tho. I remember because I had this white coworker that kept wanting me to do this flava flave impression I used to do. I did it like 3 times and one day after she asked me I realized I was cooning like shit.

she wasn't a girlfriend, she was a flirty co worker.

the sentiment was something like:

white people love having niggas perform.

i remember doing a dance or joke, or something physical - and her response to it struck me as peculiar.

she kinda looked at me as if she was in an audience. (like the end of that senorita video)

normally, i joke or dance around, and the person or (any black lady/woman) kinda joins in. we both act silly, together.

but that time, the white woman looked slam at me with a half smile and was kinda like 'do it again! do it again!' like i was a spectacle, or something.

i aint like that shit.

Something don't add up here

this.

they're either borrowing a lighter, or telling me how cool my hat is.

ONE TIME i got drunk and caught-up and ended the night with a white-girl group hug.

still don't know how that happened. but it happened.

im almost offended that you assume that.

what do you think gave you that impression?

in my experience...

note the " " ....


"Get ready..for your blessing..."

the more you hate something the closer you are to loving it.

them beckys find ways bruh...

I could easily be misunderstanding you though as the whole "stay woke" meme I always see used jokingly around here.

*admittedly I do use a lot of hyperbole to point towards what I think are truths though.

he's my father-in-law

and I CAN.*NOT.*STAND.*THAT.*MUTHAFUCKA.* (*those are handclaps)

>he's my father-in-law
>
>and I CAN.*NOT.*STAND.*THAT.*MUTHAFUCKA.* (*those are
>handclaps)

...in all honesty, it's rare I let ANYONE in my house...

and we never had any white people over. haven't had any white people in my house ever but i did live with three white guys for a year in atlanta

and Jon Jon's mom remarried a Black man. Shit was like the Brady Brunch but the wife had 3 white kids and the Dad had 3 black kids.

I was only 6 or 7 when they moved across the street from me. My you mg ass thought a Black and white couple produced all black and all white kids... thought they alternated and shit.

<-------- definitive proof I never would get with a white girl...

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me and my S.O were the only non whites there......

admittedly most of the white people i know are either "okayplayery" or developers/engineers who ime tend to be okayplayery minus the music taste

these were my S.O friends and the experience was a little bit different
party was basically divided between hipsters and ivy league alum/management consultants
and i mean LITERALLY divided
like we were in a different area of the house basically cliqued up with the white people who knew my S.O and all their friends who work in the same industry
i see that kind of thing often at black events but have never seen it so dramatically presented in a white setting
probably cause all the white ppl i know fit a standard archetype
just was an interesting observation
the small talk was honestly boring as shit
i learn some things about atlanta and why all the consultant firms are on peach street and why they began building on peach street (laying foundations in limestone)
and other "white shit" i didn't care about
had one dude ask me where I was from .....i think i may have been speaking too proper for him but that may just be my own insecurities searching for racist shit whilst surrounded by whites

like i said the small talk was ass so i was pressed to bounce
i just thought about this thread alot while i was there
probably because i didn't feel that comfortable around white ppl that i didn't have that much in common with
so to an extent i better understand what the ppl above were alluding to
still don't agree with segregating myself but i can now envision scenarios where that may be the easiest solution

.

and I cringe every.fu-king.time.


Why, just yesterday I was in the backyard, and as I looked thru the patio window out to the street, I saw a grey Jeep whizz by.

"Is that your grandfather?! WHY IS HE HERE?!"

He was bringing one of the kids home.

:-/

did you wife up one of those women who went against her fathers wishes?

It's my wife's stepfather.

He one of those 'I-married-a-black-woman-so-I-understand-the-struggle'

muhfuggas.


no, you don't.