>i'm missing those context clues.

You are missing some key points.
>what i'm picking up is that the mother clearly knew her son
>was in a relationship with a looney toon and probably tried to
>discourage the marriage from the start.

His mother wanted us to get married. Always brought it up in the two and a half years prior to our i dos.

and over time, what
>started as light shade probably evolved into full blown,
>eye-rolling, head-bobbing hate.

There was no beef with her until she met my family and saw what they did for me and then what my husband does for me and started with this I'm spoiled rant. Which basically stemmed from me asking her about he rehearsal dinner and then my husband asking again like a month after I broke my leg (3 months before my wedding)

But even if I were "spilied" why should she even give a shit? What does that have to do with her?
>
>but dude went through with the wedding and now mama is trying
>to keep him and his one-legged dog walker off the street with
>the bare minimum of assistance.

We were fine and able to pay our bills. We had been married for a year before she offered the place to us. And we were back on our feet. The financial hardship came before our wedding when I wasn't working.