That viewpoint is problematic. It maybe his house but a step-parent
has no business making those types of decision if Dad is in the
picture. I understand certain aspects of behavior in HIS HOUSE but
what the child wears(like many other things) is outside his call.
The step-dad has no right to dictate how the child is raised.
Like I said, certain aspects of behavior he may have a call on but
anything else is inappropriate. This is one reason why this setup is
impractical.


>saying but seldom do muhphuckas have kids and not intend on
>being with the mother/father. Life is full of obstacles and
>sadly staying in love isn't one of those things you can easily
>jump over.

Don't have kids in that situation UNLESS you want to post about it
on OKP and look stupid...For MY enjoyment.

>They had a child, their relationship didn't work out and for
>all intents and purposes they are seemingly cordial for the
>sake of the child. Mom remarries, starts a new family unit per
>se. Step Dad set a few standards for how HIS home and everyone
>in it is gonna act/dress yada yadda. I don't have a problem
>w/that AT All.

There's a serious problem with that because this isn't something he
should be able to control. This is frankly a failure on the mother's
end. If you want that control have your own kids. If you aren't
going to have your own kids do what's best for the kid and let the
Parents handle their duties. If the natural parents aren't handling
their duties THEN you'd be well within your rights to raise the kid.

>The message that the stepdad conveyed is cool, it's his
>approach/manner of how he got it across is more or less the
>issue.

I agree with that. That lil boy was dressed like a f'n bamma.

>Hell it would probably be cool if both men sat down and the
>step dad said during the school week Mon-Thursday, " i want DJ
>Poke,Jr. to wear this that and what not, and on the fridays
>that you pick him I'll let him wear the lil' Lebron gear or
>whatever have you.

That doesn't mesh with what the OP said his arrangement is.
According to the OP he see his child everyday and on the weekends.

>Don't for a second discredit the step dads role or authority
>in this. You may be buying clothes and man-man's weekend
>getaways but that stepdad is providing a home and at the end
>of the day, his house rules have to be respected and followed.

What you wear isn't a function of a "house rule" but even if you could
make a solid case for that it still wouldn't matter. This issue boils
down to how the boy is being raised and no one other than the natural
parents should have a say. It's a failure on the OP's end for not
thinking all this through before getting his BM pregnant. This is the
BM's failure for not realizing the effects of her getting (re)married,
not respecting the father and not working with the OP to establish
ground rules. This is a failure on the CSH's for not being a man and
realizing that this isn't his child so he needs to not take the
insecure route and try to control shit that he SHOULDN'T be
involved in.