conveying sincere interest. however, 90% of the time that's not what is going on.

throwing out "hey girl *insert some language about her body or sex*" or "hey beautiful" or whatever else along these lines ain't it.

it's misogyny when you have men and women talking about "why you gotta walk don 125th street? you KNOW that's how they do" as though she should alter HER behavior so she won't be harassed. or "get out of NYC" or anything else that conveys a woman inexplicably wants this behavior directed towards her based on where she lives, walks, works, dresses, etc. all of this implies that both parties are equally culpable for this. this is not true. the problem lies with the harasser, not the person being degraded, inconvenienced, and feeling scared for their safety.

and yes, i know men who truly hate women.