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@geahuwine

Almost too good.

I don’t want it to end.

I miss the hell out of them but damn it feels good to have the house to ourselves.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

if they know me as ___ i dont want to show something that tells them differently, even if its not a bad thing.

if im typically known to not do something then i start to i keep it hush.

i guess you dont need to announce such things but there have been times that people will ask me if i have tried something or if i know do something that they know me not to do and i will deny it even if i have.

i dont know why i would lie about it. its not like its something thats wrong or that they dont do themselves. best i can explain is that i dont want them to see me differently.

im in facebook jail for saying women are trash.

i have no regrets.

i look better than ever and theres an excellent chance your gal if you have one which i doubt would agree.

also breaded like catfish but thats not new.

i just wanna thank god.

and thats it.

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

real talk, they probably did that because you can't type that without also having typed "men are trash", which is basically a one-way ticket to FB jail

I'm pretty much a ball of anxiety right now.

Everyone is not you and that's what you want to promote. Pause before answering any question, remain calm, and respond with confidence to whatever you are asked. Sell your tangibles and your fit within the organization.

And remember, you're offering to partner with a company to do business, not to sell your soul.

YOU GOT THIS!


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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

Really sound advice.

I forgot where I read this but walk in with the mindset that you are interviewing them to see if it’s a good for FOR YOU!

Once I started doing this I had better results in interviews. I prolly came off a bit desperate when I first put myself out there a few years ago.

I turned down a gig that paid better because they switched the title on me and the PTO was ass juice.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

and I am agreeing to offer my needed services at a to the company via a temporary partnership.



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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

this is a mutual agreement. always aske questions when they've finished their spiel.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

how do they respond?

I normally get them to talk about themselves and their path to get there. this opens up convo and can lead to lil nuggets about the job/company.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

Thanks all of you. I actually feel pretty confident right now. Hope I still do at 1145!

things to avoid. I then ask them, "If you could change one thing about the culture, environment, or team, what would it be?"

That question is a KEEP IT 100 question. I ask that question to let them know that I'm down to help them make changes as needed and that I'm flexible, and I that I can bring a fresh vibe to the team.

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

every place i've asked it at, i didn't get the job and i always just kind of assumed they didn't like to have shit flipped back on them

<--- Big Baller World Order

I'm a social cat, so I have a very conversational approach to interview. I keep it live interesting and approachable.



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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

i took it out of the rotation after getting a visceral "doubletake" reaction the last time i tried it.

<--- Big Baller World Order

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

I did ask your question, tariqu. It went over very well. I appreciate all yalls support through this entire process. We'll all hope for the best and if it's meant to be it will be!

hopefully this is a go.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

Even when you work AT someone else's place of business, you work for yourself.

Since that time in '07, I've taken that approach into interviews. And I ask them questions like the ones you mentioned below.

I'm the prize. Why would I wanna work here? Sell me on that, then worry about whether or not I wanna be here.

You're already at NO when the convo starts.

All they can do is offer you the job.

--- praying for peace, love, and power

--- praying for peace, love, and power

All of you, really. There's several/many of you who have been incredibly supportive. It means a lot, okfam.

--- praying for peace, love, and power

"Ok".

You don't have to repeat it to me again & again, all of your instructions have been preserved in text.

And it's now officially Thursday but whatevs.

Yesterday, I was confronted with real wgts (white girl tears) at my new company. She screwed something up and got yelled at by her boss (not me) but it affected me so she was a mess of tears and apologies and what not in our meeting and I found myself having to coddle HER even though she really did fuck up and I know what the wgts are about.

Part of it is I actually like this girl but I got an attitude today realizing she trapped me into making HER feel better with her wgts.

#tisall

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

BUT my experience is that it's the default setting when challenged and it's a total manipulation.

or is it WGT anytime a white girl cries.

i only ask because i feel like i've def seen a difference.

<--- Big Baller World Order

We're all human and get upset and cry about shit sometimes. But I'll say that my experience suggests that in a work/office setting... it's almost always WGTs.

More like 20..if I am lucky. But seeing how dementia runs in my family I figure signs will start popping up between 60-65 lord willing. at 41 I starting to feel like I am running out of time to do all the things that I was put here to do..and yet, here I am wasting time.... SMH.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

I'm not even spiritualizing the topic, but I am talking about proven self-talk and reality. Man, don't claim that for yourself - EVER!


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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

I wasn't trying to be on some pity me stuff. I am just trying to motivate myself to not waste time and do my thing.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

you have too much to give to the people and your family to even let pitty be a walking partner.


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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

they both didnt make it to 60. diabetes made my pops live very hard the last 10 years. he stayed in denial for the first 3/5 years of those last 10 still trying to eat how he pleased.

im trying to reverse course before i get to that point. im really worried about my brother, i think hes at a stage that he needs to make drastic changes.

Slowly but surely changing the diet. Get that blood pressure down. Watch that Sodium. Up in that Gym. Hoping it all makes the difference.




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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

My old man passed at 48. I'll be 45 this year. I joke sometimes that I'm just trying to beat him.

And dementia also runs on my Moms side. For now, I'm just glad to still be here.

You're gonna do everything that you can to be here.
You're gonna defy the odds and even surprise yourself.
You're gonna be the oldest OKP ever and still posting til the URLS fall off.

You're gonna get it in until after both canes can't take it no more.
https://giphy.com/gifs/yep-xxG93S877krf2

--- praying for peace, love, and power

The fact is, I can't afford to think that I only have 25 years left. Both of my parents are dead. Both died of Cancer. My moms died at age 45 in 1996 (I was 22) and my father died at age 68 2018 (I was 44). The way I could look at it is that I have until I'm 66. BUT TO HELL WITH THAT THINKING!

Can't front. This post kinda pulled out some suppressed mortality issues for me. I can't afford to even think that I'm gonna die before I see 85. Most of my family lived to be 92+. I'm gonna make it to see at least 93 and in my RIGHT MIND. I claim it and Declare it.



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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

no matter how many years you got left, how well are you spending that time?

need to stop with the mentality that ill get to that down the road and start attacking the things you want to do in life.

doesnt apply for everyone as some have been living like that but i feel it.

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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

My life experiences are a little different because I have been dealing with older parents and loved ones who suffered long illness and that's the shit I don't want. My wife's dad died suddenly of a heart attack and her mother withered away over several years do to a degenerative condition and we both agree going out suddenly was so much better for everyone.

So my big issue isn't with dying, my big concerned is not doing the things here I was suppose to do. Get my boys to a point of independence, do the creative and business stuff I want to do, and help some people out. If I can get it all done in the next twenty years, I think I will be at peace.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

no news here

I realized today I’m too quick to get into relationships and too slow to get out of them.

Oh well. Lesson learned.

Onward and upwards.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

and as soon as you really don't want or feel the need to be in a relationship, the right guy will come along and y'all will click.
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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

i just found out my nephew got arrested
and is on probation for a year
i find out thursday night
and i was on a flight to him in the morning
it happened in february
and i found out a week ago

fuck his bitch ass moms
im sick of her shit
how the fuck do you not tell our side
of the family?
how do you not call and tell me he was in
jail for three days?
all she does is post on instagram all fucking day

i took him to go start his community service
which he should have started three weeks ago!
he told me he was going to go again on sunday
and didn't
i just don't know what to do
it was such a dumb reason to get arrested
and i feel like he had a shitty ass lawyer
so thats why he got mandatory probation
i could have found him a better lawyer
if she just would have called

i've had so much anxiety over cops and his safety
this is taken me over the top
i HAVE to find a therapist soon
i feel constantly scared for him and his brother
and worry all of the time for their safety
and their attitude

i really do believe this is why i never became a mom
god knows i wouldn't be able to handle the anxiety and worry

I highly recommend taking advantage of your Employee Assistance Program at work if you have one.





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“It was the evidence from science and history that prompted me to abandon my atheism and become a Christian.” — Lee Strobel, The Case for Christ

it's good to sweat it out, but even just going for a walk is good. reading or watching something funny or doing something fun with people you love also can help. I hope you feel better soon.

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