1. "had a hard conversation with my wife last night" In response to Reply # 0
I think many times a man will hold stuff in and soldier on in the marriage and not say a word about how he feels he'll cheat he'll disappear he'll disassociate he'll develop resentment before ever talking to his wife about how he feels about "us"
her reaction was up and down at the moment...but she double back provided some positive feedback
weight off my shoulder now more work lol
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Navem nu, cuando sol Tutu nu, vondo nos nu Vita em, no continous non Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen
When the sun shades the ship We sweat and life is not safe To swim or to touch not When we unite we hedge amen
13. "Dead ass, B. After being that guy in earlier circumstances, I learned th..." In response to Reply # 1
>I think many times a man will hold stuff in and soldier on in >the marriage and not say a word about how he feels >he'll cheat >he'll disappear >he'll disassociate >he'll develop resentment >before ever talking to his wife about how he feels about "us" >
it's just better to communicate what's there because the added problems, caused by the actions mentioned above, are not worth it nor are they conducive to the type of success one could desire in their marriage or relationship.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79585 posts
Wed Apr-17-19 10:30 AM
2. "Seems like the more we make the less there is" In response to Reply # 0
Daycare is so disrespectful to our budget.
Especially after doing taxes.
We just have to make it to summer but the way my wife is talking she is trying to work for the first month teaching an intensive. She does it every year and while it’s more money it’s not really because if we kept the kids at home we would save more than she makes.
Have to have a real ass convo about saving money.
She gets paid through the summer too so it’s not like she is scrambling for cash.
and she is on spring break right now. I’m jealous. LOL.
My bro in law is tripping but iont know what to believe. All I know is my mother in law is supposed to spend a week with these kids this summer and she better not back out to take care of my sister in laws kids. We just need one week out of the year while my sister in law demands damn near all her free time because she got 4 kids and a shitty husband... and he’s from the caucus area so I’m really on some “you chose this white nigglet” and it’s mostly just because of his skin tone.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
3. "fuck this pregnancy. " In response to Reply # 0
second kid, second pregnancy.
My wife went through hell with the first one
But this one is next level.
Shes been sick, actual flu/cold/stomach virus sick one to two weeks out of every month on top of hellish morning sickness in the first trimester.
PLUS
Shes still recovering from the first pregnancy on top of being pregnant. Short story, while in the first pregnancy she had a horrific accident - broke some bones, tore some ligaments and wrecked her body, the baby was fine but she suffered and is still suffering because of the injury. The messed up part in all of this is that her body was starting to heal at a crazy fast rate right before we got pregnant again - post pregnancy the hormone levels change and promote healing which was good but then got cut short because of the pregnancy.
I can't wait for this to be over. Nothing is worse than watching the person you love suffer and you can't do much but be present because you can't reach for the good drugs to make the pain go away.
We're both ready for her to get through this so she can start healing and being active again. Shes damn near in bed rest.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79585 posts
Wed Apr-17-19 01:43 PM
5. "My wife had a natural pregnancy the second time" In response to Reply # 3
Emergency C section the first.
She is still dealing with hormone changes 2 years later.
No more kids for us. She was beautiful while pregnant too but these babies tore her up.
Now anytime a kid starts tripping my wife tells the story of all she went thru and they just do what she says so she will stop talking. Not even sure they understand but they just get tired of hearing it
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
12. "Continued blessings to you both. And I'm prayerful that your wife heals...." In response to Reply # 3
and returns to herself better than she was before.
And continue being the rock she needs while she's going through it. The fluctuations in hormone levels are tough for us to deal with but imagine what they are going through.
For the last few years, my wife has been dealing with symptoms that wreak havoc on the mind and body once women reach a certain age. It has not been the easiest to deal with but it has been a test of my patience. Let's just say that I've become a much more patient person. LOL
6. "It took me 7 tries to remember my password here..." In response to Reply # 0 Wed Apr-17-19 02:44 PM by LoveJonez
hmmmm......
Where's my signature, slackers?
It's good to log on here......heyyyyy yawl.
confessions? hmmmm.....
I've been TRYYYYin to fast during this Holy Week....and I did GOOD....Monday. Because I'm on BP meds....i have to eat something...so I'm totally fasting every other day........today, I'm ON....and i'm STARVING. Lemme go pray.
I'm in a GOOOOOD place right now. Not making the same amount of money that i'm used to while contracting.....but this perm gig is a DREAM. It's agency vs corporate so it's wayyyyyyyy more laid back.....yet wayyyyy more productive and playful. I'm the only Black ANYTHING here.....the keyboards are even white......and I'm the BLACKEST Black u gon GET. So far...so good.
Life has been sooooooo different since my Mema passed. It's sooooo painful to me where the opportunity for new traditions can be a joy. I won't let it be tho. My heart is just broken. It's been three months and one day. This grief is NOT good.
I needta lose weight in these here thighs.......so I can maintain my #owwww status
ok...thas ennuff for the comeback.....
**edit**...another confession......sooooo....I've been gone so long from here and on Facebook and Instagram SO much....that I was reading the other confessions looking for a "LIKE" button.......cmonnnnnn OKP.....lol. where are the "LIKE".."LOVE" buttons? lol
. . “Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.” ~ Albert Einstein
"I cannot see how nature could have created itself. Only a supernatural force that is outside of space and time could have done that. ~ Francis Collins
7. "Went to a funeral yesterday. " In response to Reply # 0
My wife's Nana. She wasn't technically her grandmother by blood. Long story, but that was her grandmother. My brother in laws grandmother by blood, if that clears anything up. Anyway, she lived to see 100 years on this earth. Quite a remarkable woman. She had such an impact and influence on so many people. Me included. If you consider her entire life span, I barely knew her,just the last 15 years. But she was special and I loved her. I remember her lovingly and fondly and I am a better person having met and spent time with her. She is truly one of a kind and she is greatly missed.
26. "My Condolences. 100 yrs a blessing to be celebrated " In response to Reply # 7
And the pain of grief is still not made any easier. May God keep and comfort your family.
. . “Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.” ~ Albert Einstein
"I cannot see how nature could have created itself. Only a supernatural force that is outside of space and time could have done that. ~ Francis Collins
BrooklynWHAT Member since Jun 15th 2007 85066 posts
Thu Apr-18-19 10:28 AM
19. "i dont think im cut out to juggle women. i care too much." In response to Reply # 0
i've never been the kind of guy to date around. i always just gave one woman my attention. kinda fell into having a couple girls rn.
managing it is surprisingly easy. but man i be feeling bad when im by myself and thinking about how to prioritize them. and im hesitant to commit to the one im feeling the most because she got the most red flags/baggage. she's working on herself but i just need to see the vision before i can because she's a hurricane.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79585 posts
Thu Apr-18-19 11:18 AM
22. "Haha.. the one with the most red flags is always the most fun" In response to Reply # 19
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
i used to bail when red flags popped up but she really cracked something in me to where i look past a lot of shit like "oh yeah this is fixable. we can work on this."
28. "Red Flags never go away, they just get put away until later" In response to Reply # 24
. . “Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.” ~ Albert Einstein
"I cannot see how nature could have created itself. Only a supernatural force that is outside of space and time could have done that. ~ Francis Collins
BrooklynWHAT Member since Jun 15th 2007 85066 posts
Thu Apr-18-19 07:28 PM
30. "RE: What are the RED FLAGS?" In response to Reply # 29 Thu Apr-18-19 07:29 PM by BrooklynWHAT
The biggest one (to me at least) is she thought I was part of some scheme by her ex to set her up and pump her for info to make her look bad in custody hearings. One of the first times we hung out she grilled me about who I knew, where I hang out, why I decided to talk to her in the first place, a lot of shit. Doesn't seem like she has the greatest relationship with the kids dad, largely due to shit she's done. But like I said she's trying to do better so I'm willing to see how it progresses.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
the problem comes in tho when im with other women the chemistry just isnt the same. and with me and her it just kind of clicks even though it shouldnt given how different we are.
35. "I try to blow my 11yo son's mind with music. I fail often." In response to Reply # 0
Had one of my favorite rock records on in the car. We get to the market near the end of the album and he says "finally! That music hurts my ears" (It wasn't too loud). Called it "cheese-grater music," lol.
So far the soul and funk are the only old music he kinda digs. He likes this new stuff tho. Gonna keep trying.
40. "all you can do is expose him to it" In response to Reply # 35
if he gravitates toward specific ones then give him more of that. if he doesnt enjoy some then do less of that.
we all go through phases. he might not be in the mind frame for specific type of music right now, no matter how good it might be. if you keep trying to force it on him he might really avoid it moving forward.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79585 posts
Mon Apr-22-19 10:33 AM
38. "Dope idea. Depending on my schedule I may try it" In response to Reply # 37
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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