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Cold Truth
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"I *feel* like I'm being a bad friend, but don't *think* I am."


  

          

My boy is coming out later this month. That's my brother right there. There's a lot of history behind this bond, and his mom was one of the most critical figures of my life, may she rest in peace. They're family. His sister and I have been close friends since 8th grade and his mom knew me way back when I was a toddler. He and I bonded the day we met, right after Like Water For Chocolate dropped, and that album was the subject of our first conversation. We've been brothers from that moment.

I love him like few others in this world.

Thing is.. he announced that he's coming in on a Thursday night, going back on Sunday, and that he needs me to help him get around to get his drivers license, pickup a birth certificate, visit his mom's grave, hit up a strip club, he wants to get high and drunk (sic), not sleep, take my kids to the beach, and hit up some restaurant in LA with my kids. He says it's time to turn up, and he's given me two weeks to get it together.

Sorry, but I'm in my late thirties, and I don't turn up. I can count on one hand the number of nights I've spent outside of my home since my kids were born. Not to mention that he wants to spend the bulk of this time in Los Angeles.

All of this sounds and feels like a movie, where the beloved best friend shows up and turns life upside down for a weekend. We're close, but very different. He still wants to party. He's been in and out the pen.

I've tried to put things in perspective but he's a little bullish, and for the first time ever, I feel like I need to tell him he needs to chill. Fall back. He wants to come out, I'll run him to do his errands, but lets chill and chop it up. Let's kick it and get a cypher going. Maybe record some shit. Get down on some NBA 2K like we did Live back in the day.

Hell, we can hit the club, whatever. But he's trying to cram a week's visit into two days with some exhausting logistics spanning three cities, and I need him to relax. I'd be excited to see him if he fell back by about 50%, but as it stands I'm not looking forward to that weekend at all.

I feel like a bad friend for that, but looking at this rationally, I don't think so. What say you?

  

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does he know it takes two hours to get anywhere in LA?
Feb 06th 2019
1
Yeah, but he's clearly not considering any of the logistics
Feb 06th 2019
3
      man, my willingness to drive is for shit these days.
Feb 06th 2019
25
not a bad friend...just a buzzkill, and thats ok
Feb 06th 2019
2
There's no bullying. Definitely a buzzkill
Feb 06th 2019
6
      most of my friends who are now buzzkills..i do consider it
Feb 06th 2019
12
           Getting old absolutely *sucks* for so many reasons.
Feb 06th 2019
26
           The struggle is real
Feb 07th 2019
39
           lol @ growing up being "not fun" and a "buzzkill"
Feb 06th 2019
31
Sounds like an episode from a sitcom
Feb 06th 2019
4
Yeah, I mean I'm all in as long as he relaxes a bit
Feb 06th 2019
10
i read this as "coming out" coming out at first lol
Feb 06th 2019
5
ha. i read it as being released
Feb 06th 2019
7
Yeah. I thought he meant fresh out.
Feb 06th 2019
8
yeah i thought "coming out" too
Feb 06th 2019
13
LMAO nah that's just... me. Just setting the stage for why I feel how I ...
Feb 06th 2019
27
I thought gay too.
Feb 06th 2019
15
      Oooh, nah. Didn’t think that. Lol
Feb 06th 2019
23
Play along. You'll get a bunch of that done, but both of y'all will get
Feb 06th 2019
9
Was he locked up?
Feb 06th 2019
11
He got out a few years ago.
Feb 06th 2019
21
there comes a time in every mans life
Feb 06th 2019
14
Im lounge man these days.
Feb 06th 2019
22
      there's usually a middle ground
Feb 06th 2019
24
RE: I *feel* like I'm being a bad friend, but don't *think* I am.
Feb 06th 2019
16
nothing to feel bad about
Feb 06th 2019
17
Naw you grown. Tell him what you can and cannot do. And blame the
Feb 06th 2019
18
not a bad friend at all.
Feb 06th 2019
19
Nah I agree with most in here.
Feb 06th 2019
20
You're not a bad friend, you just can't live like that anymore
Feb 06th 2019
28
I read this as "Coming OUT," then as "Coming HOME"
Feb 06th 2019
29
you're allowed to outgrow people
Feb 06th 2019
30
because it bothers me i would probably go...
Feb 07th 2019
32
It’s just 1 week out of 52 and only 50 -60% off all that will happen
Feb 07th 2019
33
Might burn himself out for the next week or two. People need rest...
Feb 07th 2019
34
He'll be aight. He can do 3.5 days
Feb 07th 2019
36
Yeah party like a rock star!
Feb 07th 2019
37
      He's Married Right. Dude spend more time on here than in Real Life
Feb 07th 2019
40
           I spend more time on OKP than in real life? Show your work.
Feb 07th 2019
41
                Just go out and have fund w/o trying to get buy-in from OKP
Feb 08th 2019
42
                     Who's asking for "buy-in"
Feb 08th 2019
43
                          Dude you want validation for your feelsings and reservation .
Feb 08th 2019
44
                          lol, some christian, encouraging a night of debauchery
Feb 08th 2019
45
                          lol holy fuck you 2.. this is the dumbest fight ever.
Feb 08th 2019
46
                               They need a night out together.
Feb 11th 2019
50
                                    Y'all are right. This was Classically Dumb on our part.
Feb 11th 2019
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                          *feelsings*
Feb 12th 2019
58
                          have FUND
Feb 11th 2019
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                               You basically said the same thing I said.
Feb 12th 2019
60
                                    no doubt
Feb 12th 2019
61
Pick the things you think it's possible for you to do
Feb 07th 2019
35
sounds like a weekend with Tracy off Atlanta
Feb 07th 2019
38
He wants to do a lot in a weekend, Jesus. Look for middle ground
Feb 11th 2019
47
Male relationships seem to dissolve in our 30s
Feb 11th 2019
48
Great post
Feb 11th 2019
49
well said
Feb 11th 2019
52
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Feb 11th 2019
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How did you arrive at this notion of desolvment?
Feb 11th 2019
55
      Male friendships do tend to fall by the wayside in late 20s/30s
Feb 12th 2019
57
      I mean look at the arc of this board, Rev.
Feb 13th 2019
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You grown and have responsibilities..
Feb 11th 2019
51
only the middle part really sounds unreasonable...
Feb 12th 2019
59
I think y'all should have some adventures, *but* simplified
Feb 13th 2019
63
So I didn't go, and I'm glad I didn't. He might catch a case now
Mar 27th 2019
64
lol Tracy wildin'.... damn Cold... way to dodge the bullet.
Mar 27th 2019
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I started to go in, but stopped myself.
Mar 27th 2019
66
Cut him off.
Mar 27th 2019
67
Are you in CA? If so, how did he lose it all over weed?
Mar 27th 2019
68
My guess is, he copped whatever was shipped. I don't know.
Mar 27th 2019
70
Wow. You weren’t lying about dude.
Mar 27th 2019
69
He lives in Texas. He's from Cali and came here to visit
Mar 27th 2019
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      They love sending people to jail in texas
Mar 28th 2019
73
Haha damn - good instincts playa.
Mar 27th 2019
72

GOMEZ
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1. "does he know it takes two hours to get anywhere in LA?"
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I'm assuming he does, but either trim that agenda or LA traffic will trim that shit for you.

Also, w/kids you got a built in excuse for telling people to chill the fuck out. And if you got someone in your life who doesn't want to abide by that... I just tell them these days.



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Cold Truth
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3. "Yeah, but he's clearly not considering any of the logistics"
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For starters, I'm in the IE, and he wants to go further into the IE for part of this.

  

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GOMEZ
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25. "man, my willingness to drive is for shit these days."
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I live up in Santa Barbara. One of my boys from high school who's in Seattle hit me up like 'what up?! I'm in Huntington Beach! Where we partying?!'

I told him he could drive up and I'd take him out. That took care of that. It's like a 3-3.5 hour drive if there's any kind of traffic.


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tomjohn29
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2. "not a bad friend...just a buzzkill, and thats ok"
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Wed Feb-06-19 03:22 PM by tomjohn29

  

          

probably need to explain to him some of these issues and not get bullied into feeling bad about doing things you don't want to do

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Vita em, no continous non
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Cold Truth
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6. "There's no bullying. Definitely a buzzkill"
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He was blowing my phone up until I told him that he's trying to cram a lot into two days, and I haven't heard back since.

  

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tomjohn29
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12. "most of my friends who are now buzzkills..i do consider it"
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i hate they are that way now...but what am i going to do
usually just schedule a dinner or something when I'm in town and leave it at that...go out with fun friends

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Navem nu, cuando sol
Tutu nu, vondo nos nu
Vita em, no continous non
Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen

When the sun shades the ship
We sweat and life is not safe
To swim or to touch not
When we unite we hedge amen

  

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Brew
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26. "Getting old absolutely *sucks* for so many reasons."
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Wed Feb-06-19 03:45 PM by Brew

          

And this is one of them. I just turned 35 and while I'm far from my only friend without kids, the group of kidless friends is far smaller than it once was. Used to be pretty easy to get a group together to go out, even if it was just for a few early drinks/home by 11 type of thing.

Pretty tough to get a group together these days. Thankfully my wife and I travel a decent amount and have a pretty full calendar with that and family/work stuff, but still. I miss the days when I'd be leaving the office, could toss out a text to 3-4 guys and have them all at the bar in ~20 minutes. Now it takes weeks and sometimes months of planning just to get lunch w/some of these folks.

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39. "The struggle is real"
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When I try to get together with other guys who have kids, it's a scheduling nightmare. We'll trade texts for weeks trying to organize a 'boys' night' until we finally settle on a plan. And the night before someone always drops out because they have a kid who's sick, or a work trip suddenly comes up, or wifey has vetoed it in the 11th hour.

The days of impromptu gatherings at the bar seem like a lifetime ago

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atruhead
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31. "lol @ growing up being "not fun" and a "buzzkill""
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legsdiamond
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4. "Sounds like an episode from a sitcom "
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Try to have fun.

It’s 2 days.

You don’t have to do everything because it’s actually impossible to do all that shit.

Most times friends have huge plans and after a few drinks they are cool with keeping it local.

shut up already, damn

  

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Cold Truth
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10. "Yeah, I mean I'm all in as long as he relaxes a bit"
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He really wants to spend time with my kids and I'm trying to sell him on that instead of the endless party he seems to envision, because it's an either or proposition.

  

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5. "i read this as "coming out" coming out at first lol"
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and i was gonna say yeah you are kind of being a bad friend.

but naw just tell him you don't kick it like that anymore and you're down to do SOME things w/ him but not the whole whirlwind itinerary.

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7. "ha. i read it as being released"
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(at first)

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8. "Yeah. I thought he meant fresh out. "
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shut up already, damn

  

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mista k5
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13. "yeah i thought "coming out" too"
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especially with the long intro about their back story and the common reference....


  

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Cold Truth
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27. "LMAO nah that's just... me. Just setting the stage for why I feel how I ..."
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Because this is one of the most important relationships I have. I feel genuine guilt for feeling somewhat annoyed/overwhelmed, because he's a literal "shirt off his back" type friend. Very selfless, and that's a big reason I feel this way.

  

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15. "I thought gay too. "
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"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

  

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legsdiamond
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23. "Oooh, nah. Didn’t think that. Lol"
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shut up already, damn

  

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9. "Play along. You'll get a bunch of that done, but both of y'all will get"
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worn out fast. I anticipate, apart from the administrative stuff and his Mom's grave, y'all are going to wind up knocked out in your living room watching Fresh Prince reruns, at least one of those nights.

  

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11. "Was he locked up?"
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Let him handle the licence, documents and grave visit on his own. Tell him about Uber/lyft.

Use the kids as the excuse for whatever you can't do with him...if you really can't.
But if you can and just rather stick to your routine, maybe you need to hop outside of your parenthood bubble for a night, for your own break, if the kids are fine.

  

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Cold Truth
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21. "He got out a few years ago. "
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>Let him handle the licence, documents and grave visit on his
>own. Tell him about Uber/lyft.

Nah he's out and about, with a job and all that. Frnakly this is only problematic because I'm low on vacation hours and he's costing me overtime to boot.

>Use the kids as the excuse for whatever you can't do with
>him...if you really can't.
>But if you can and just rather stick to your routine, maybe
>you need to hop outside of your parenthood bubble for a night,
>for your own break, if the kids are fine.

It's mostly a logistical issue. The license/birth certificate and gravesite is 45 minutes away from where I live, and LA is about an hour and a half-two hours, depending on traffic. The paperwork stuff alone is at least a half a day.

The beach he wants to hit with my kids is Malibu, and he wants us to stay at his aunt's in Compton. She's a partier, and he wants to party. Since I'm not making my kids endure an all night party full of weed smoke, I'd have to bring them back home before heading back out for that part.

It's a lot of back and forth over long distances, and the driving a lone will take up several hours.

  

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14. "there comes a time in every mans life"
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when you gotta be honest and let the chips fall where they may

true story time...

i used to go down to my brothers and ringleader them cats into legendary weekends

they would harrass my brother about when i was coming back because they all were lookgin for an excuse to cut loose

then I grew up

because they are all younger they didn't get it

one, my brother's best friend, literally cried the single indian tear when i told him there would be no shenanigans

when i go down now he doesn't want to hear from me at all

ah well

now ALL of us are older and some of them are now on some "old man in the club"

just put on "I ain't mad atcha" and keep it pushin

such is life

  

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legsdiamond
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22. "Im lounge man these days. "
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I ain’t trying to hit up a club

Just want to sip on something, talk shit and maybe fake holla as a wing man

I can’t front tho, when it all comes together and we let loose it feels good

Next day tho... regretting the hangover.

shut up already, damn

  

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Selah
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24. "there's usually a middle ground"
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halfway between "turn down for what" and complete "poot-butt"

however....

sometimes when you dealing with a cat who is trying to make up for lost time, they won't take no for an answer and just don't get that you have outgrown all that

thats when they need to find a new cut-buddy

that don't mean you've lost love

just grown up

  

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Original Juice
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16. "RE: I *feel* like I'm being a bad friend, but don't *think* I am."
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Based on your description, you actually sound like a pretty good friend to him.

I wouldn't feel bad at all.. especially, since you are still planning on making time to help him, entertain him, etc..

  

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17. "nothing to feel bad about"
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you have responsibilities

a bad friend would blow him off completely. to say you're willing to hang out but with certain limits is perfectly reasonable. if he can't work with that, or understand where you're coming from, he's being the shitty friend.

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18. "Naw you grown. Tell him what you can and cannot do. And blame the"
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cannot do on your old lady.

Man I use my wife to get out of sooo much shit. She be mad at me having my friends thinking she don't let me out the house.

If you don't have an old lady, blame the kids.

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19. "not a bad friend at all."
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you're willing to help him get some stuff done. have him narrow that activity list down to things that make sense. that kind of agenda is too much work otherwise.

nah, you trippin

  

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Brew
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20. "Nah I agree with most in here."
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Wed Feb-06-19 03:36 PM by Brew

          

Not being a bad friend. It's not like you're trying to dodge him altogether. You're just trying to steer the visit to some more age-appropriate timeframes/activities. And like someone already said, you having kids is a built in excuse.

I'd go as far as to say that *he'd* be acting as a bad friend were he to try hard to persuade you to run around the city/entire state for a wild weekend and ignore your pleas about needing to be there for your fam. Especially since it sounds like he's not only asking you to wild out but is also asking for a ton of favors.

And to be sure, considering how close you said y'all are, he shouldn't be *afraid* to ask for those favors. I'm just saying he should back off a bit on the other stuff when you say "nah I can't really do a weekend like that, but I'll help you out and let's just chill and play some 2k ..." or whatever.

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28. "You're not a bad friend, you just can't live like that anymore"
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Wed Feb-06-19 04:12 PM by Marauder21

  

          

Happens to everyone, will probably happen to him at some point, too (if it hasn't already and he's not just in denial.)

There's a decent chance that he won't even want to do half that shit when he gets in. How many times do you plan a trip/visit and think of all the things you DEFINITELY FOR SURE NEED to do, only to scrap most of them?

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29. "I read this as "Coming OUT," then as "Coming HOME""
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lol, I was reading the post wondering what was taking so long for him to come out in 2019, then I wondered why he was trying to get high on his weekend out (work release?), THEN I finally realized he's coming out to visit.

Nah, you're not being a bad friend. Tell him you gotta chill some. Personally, having my time scheduled for me stresses me out. He can't just come by the crib and chill?

And yeah, LA driving ain't no joke. The drive from East LA to Santa Monica took us almost as long as the drive from Philly to New York City (weekday traffic).

  

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30. "you're allowed to outgrow people"
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one of my groomsmen and I are polar opposites, we're going on 40 and he's not interested in growing up. I hung with him while he was in town in October because it happened to coincide with a weekend where my wife wasn't here. he's called me a bad friend for not wanting to hang, but hanging always turns into shit I don't want to be around

someone else expressed doubt about me moving to LA (June will be 7 years), then he showed total disregard when I tried to reconcile asking him to be in the wedding, we havent spoken much in 5 years

  

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32. "because it bothers me i would probably go..."
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I know me...

I’ll talk myself out of why I shouldn’t go so it may take an extra push for me to go. usually I end up enjoying it especially if it’s with the homie. The other outcome...your friend learns exactly who you are now.

  

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33. "It’s just 1 week out of 52 and only 50 -60% off all that will happen"
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Dang homes, Live a little outside of your comfort zone. Set a few expectations and go have same fun with your brother.



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34. "Might burn himself out for the next week or two. People need rest..."
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...especially with kids around. You know how it is when your time is not 100% your own. Rest is not guaranteed. Being a zombie for days sucks pretty bad.

  

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36. "He'll be aight. He can do 3.5 days"
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37. "Yeah party like a rock star! "
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Hire a baby sitter, drink water, take some vitamins and have some fun. You just need to self regulate and moderate yourself. Say no when it gets too much.

I love when friends come to town. A great excuse to break up the monotony. I call out of work, get the kid situated and then I let loose!

Rise & Shine
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40. "He's Married Right. Dude spend more time on here than in Real Life"
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Needs to get out and enjoy himself. So something besides Social Media.


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41. "I spend more time on OKP than in real life? Show your work."
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I haven't posted much at all recently. It's been very here and there, even in the NBA trade post.

And when I do post a lot? It's sporadic and in bursts, generally confined to one or two posts.

Often enough, those posts consist largely of a back and forth with you, or someone like you. So hi, Pot. Kettle here, but we've met.

But hey, you're a christian and, allegey, a pastor after all, not one to let pesky things get in the way of a good fairytal

I'll say this though: your passive aggressive antagonism is always a treat, because you consistently illustrate just how basic you are in a way that borders on performance art.

The guy who opens the Non Sequitur comic strip could sue you for copywriters infringement, if this weren't just who you are🤣

  

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42. "Just go out and have fund w/o trying to get buy-in from OKP"
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43. "Who's asking for "buy-in""
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I realize you've been heavily indoctrinated into a cult that requires innumerable layers of insulation and confirmation bias in order to maintain your delusion, but here's a protip:

Obtaining outside perspective is a good thing. It helps you evaluate the merit of your perceptions, beliefs and decisions from a more objective standpoint.

You're welcome.

  

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44. "Dude you want validation for your feelsings and reservation . "
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Be a grown man and go hang out with ya fam and stop looking for folks to help you cope.


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45. "lol, some christian, encouraging a night of debauchery"
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First, you do realize that you can troll without putting your stupidity on full display. Seriously, you don't have to form the dumbest, most pea-brained conclusions to troll for negative attention.

I realize that it's hard for you to grasp anything with the slightest bit of nuance though.

What sort of pastor, or any Christian, would encourage such a night anyways? I wonder how your imaginary friend would feel about your Christian leadership here? or your fellow church clergy for that matter.

But hey, you and I both know that it's more important for you to troll someone than to minister to them. A wolf is a wolf though, you have to be who you are.

That said, I've given you more attention than you deserve.

I'll be more than happy to lavish you with plenty of attention in your next backward, brain-dead, fallacy-filled cult post, but I'm through giving you attention in mine

Goodbye for now

  

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46. "lol holy fuck you 2.. this is the dumbest fight ever."
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wth

  

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50. "They need a night out together. "
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On some 48 hours steez.

shut up already, damn

  

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53. "Y'all are right. This was Classically Dumb on our part. "
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58. "*feelsings*"
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ima make a book of these joints.

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56. "have FUND"
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and do not engage the Rev.

Driving from (where you at) to LA and BACK?! to drop off some kids?!! so you can go do WHAT?! <---all the Soulja Boy memes

I need a nap from reading all that.

you grown, bruh.

do what you can and blame the rest on ya kids. NOT YOUR LADY.

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60. "You basically said the same thing I said."
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61. "no doubt"
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I just spelled it right.

in the spirit of phila-del-phia, brotherly love, let me have at these foibles my guy. You misspell stuff quite often, and I find it amusing to call it out.

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35. "Pick the things you think it's possible for you to do"
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And give him good directions on how he can do the rest himself.

Pick one night to hang out with him so you get that out of the way and a few daytime activities that you don't mind. Tell him that the others would be borderline impossible for you to roll with him.

It's just a few days so you'll both be fine. If he's your friend he'll understand that you can't drop everything and wild out hangover style.

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38. "sounds like a weekend with Tracy off Atlanta"
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beyond exhausting.. and potentially sketchy AF.

  

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47. "He wants to do a lot in a weekend, Jesus. Look for middle ground"
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We are about the same age (you and I). I had a similar situation visiting my main man in Miami recently, dude I lived with in college and chilled with all the time, even stayed strong living all over the place across states and even countries. But we hadn't seen each other in three years or so and I made a side trip to Miami to see him after a work trip to Tampa. We mostly just kicked it during the week and then went big on the weekend, couple all nighters and whatever. I'd say take him to handle his shit, maybe the beach and one night out. Dude is trying to have like a whole big ass The Hangover agenda and you are not checking for it. Understandable, but it's fun to make a run at it once in a while.

And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

  

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48. "Male relationships seem to dissolve in our 30s"
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We become insanely insular with marriage, family, career etc. for whatever reason that we don't realize the importance of outside support, building with your day ones etc. Without strong ties, who are we? He with the most value based relationships wins. If you really value this brother, there's ways for you to both get what you want. Is it really an all or nothing proposition? Just say "I know you wanted to do X,Y,Z and I want to kick it with you but this weekend, I'm only able to put A,B, and C on the agenda." There's room for compromise.

The one thing you shouldn't do is try to grandstand on some "You need to grow up." about how *you* want the weekend to play out. Yes, you have your life and he has his, and it seems like you're both living positively - but no need to try to establish a moral highground to simultaneously shame him and substantiate your decision. If he's a friend, he'll receive where you're coming form.

Streets won't let me chill.

  

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49. "Great post"
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shut up already, damn

  

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52. "well said"
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54. "^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^"
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And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

  

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55. "How did you arrive at this notion of desolvment?"
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Besides the remainder of what you said, please tell me how you arrived at the understanding that "Male relationships seem to dissolve in our 30s" and "We become insanely insular with marriage, family, career etc. for whatever reason that we don't realize the importance of outside support, building with your day ones etc"?

How did you arrive at this because I've experienced the direct opposite? Sure, there's such a thing for priorities when it comes to family, but I doubt that men are insanely insular. Maybe you didn't mean to say insular, but I'm curious.


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57. "Male friendships do tend to fall by the wayside in late 20s/30s"
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I sincerely wish that wasn't the case, but in addition to some allusions in this very thread as to why, it's pretty widely recognized:

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/nov/07/why-men-lose-friends-in-their-30s

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/nz8k3q/five-ways-you-lose-your-friends-in-your-30s

http://www.executivestyle.com.au/why-do-millions-of-men-have-no-close-friends-gl3tu2

I was sincere about the insularity of it all. I was thinking about getting married once, and an old head told me if anything goes wrong in your house, people won't look at your wife - they'll look at you. In trying to be the head of household, stay employed and provide for the kids, keep the wife happy, etc. men can find themselves just digging in and "doing the work" day in and day out, neglecting what gives them fulfillment like hobbies and friendships. Women with the commonality of family and marriage tend to make and maintain their relationships well into adulthood based on that. For us, not so much. The first article I posted mentions that a lot of men, while even in relationships feel isolated.

On top of that, there's a lot more at play that causes male friendships to die. After marriage/family, they may feel they can't relate to their friends anymore (especially if they're single - and it reminds them of who they once were) and lean on their wives relationships more - the "I'm grown now." stunt. If they're beholden to their family, there may be jealousy if someone they started off with has more latitude financially, in life, whatever while they have to schedule carpool or take the long way home from work to get some alone time. More often than that, it's just ego. No one wants to break or be the first to reach out. "Oh, he'll be aiight. I'll hit him next week."...and then next week never comes.

Anecdotally, it's happened to me. My best friend for almost 30 years got married a couple years ago and then basically cut me off. I did my part to reach out and repair the relationship, but it wasn't reciprocated. It is what it is. People and circumstances change, but I think there's something to be said for being a stand up dude and having a community around you that you both gain from and you put into, who actually have seen your development. Maintaining close friendships is part of that.




Streets won't let me chill.

  

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62. "I mean look at the arc of this board, Rev. "
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51. "You grown and have responsibilities.."
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Kids come first so a part of that schedule has to go. Do the things that fit into your schedule and ditch the rest. You got a job and cannot get legit turnt with a negative hit on performance.

  

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59. "only the middle part really sounds unreasonable..."
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"hit up a strip club, he wants to get high and drunk (sic), not sleep,"

you can hit the club but you don't have to stay all night, the rest just tell him you have a family and you don't do that any more and if he can't respect that is he really a friend?

I went through a similar thing with one of my boys in town last weekend. We used to go hard back in the day. This time he would be with his family until like 10 or 11 pm and then want to link up which was normal back in the day but now I go to bed at that time lol.

I finally saw him Saturday he showed up at this party I was at like 12, I left shortly after he got there. I could tell he felt some type of way but oh well, Father Time is undefeated lol.

  

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63. "I think y'all should have some adventures, *but* simplified"
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That's your friend. Y'all negotiate it to where y'all have a comfortable set of activities planned, with some time to chill spaced in.

Enjoy yourself, man. Make sure you do things you can all enjoy, even if that means just chilling with each other.

  

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64. "So I didn't go, and I'm glad I didn't. He might catch a case now"
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We spoke a few times before the weekend got there, and I did my best to find some sort of middle ground.

His entire focus, under every circumstances, was smoking as much weed as possible. He was talking about riding around and smoking out, which I shut down without compromise. NAH. THAT AIN'T HAPPENING. So then he offers the compromise of him just eating edibles. He was also talking about hitting the dispensary.

Here's the thing: dispensaries out here stay getting shut down.

Further, I'm not driving around while he gets high in my car. First, I'm not a smoker and never was, so his heavy insistence on making that such a big part of the weekend wasn't working for me.

But he also kept talking about "business". First, his prior incarceration was a drug charge. So it's pretty easy to connect these dots. He eventually came around to hitting a Lupe concert, a BBQ event, and a few other options, instead of trying to do Hangover 4. But he never budged on the weed tip.

So I made up some excuse about suddenly getting sent out of town for work, because I couldn't bring myself to just tell him I didn't want to kick it. And I felt bad about that, and wish I'd have just been up front. But that's what it is.

He wound up spending all his funds on that leaf, and wound up spending the whole weekend blazing. He did absolutely nothing.
It can certainly be argued that it may not have gone down like that had I been there, but I doubt it.

Anyhow, I'm supposed to mail him his drivers license, and he hits me with a CALL ASAP text. I call, and he tells me to hold off because he needs to get a new mailing address.

Why?

Because he had his fucking cousin MAIL HIM SOME FUCKING WEED.

But W-W-W-W-WAIT IT GETS WORSE!!! (c) Sticky

His. Fucking. Cousin. Sent. That. Shit. To. The. Wrong. PO BOX.

Yeah.

So he gets to the post office and they tell him he has to go to some back room to pick up his package.

This fucking guy.

I tell him to start looking at lawyers. I don't really know what his culpability is here, but yeah. Doesn't look good on the surface.

  

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65. "lol Tracy wildin'.... damn Cold... way to dodge the bullet."
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I shouldn't laugh at your guys bad fortune but LMAO... that story bout his cousin's postal mishap is pretty funny... your buddy is obviously in a constant state of fuck-uppery smdh.. like I said.. way to dodge the bullet.

  

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66. "I started to go in, but stopped myself."
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I got a little loud on some "YOU NEED TO..." and then said man I'm not going to start ranting. Just call some lawyers and handle your biz.

He's fucking 40 doing this shit.

  

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67. "Cut him off."
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flipnile
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68. "Are you in CA? If so, how did he lose it all over weed?"
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Eighths started at $25-$30 at the dispensary I went to. $60 and he should've been straight for days. Smoking weed in a car is illegal tho.

  

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Cold Truth
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70. "My guess is, he copped whatever was shipped. I don't know. "
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He said he had five bills to spend over the weekend. I hit him up to see if he was still planning on hitting up the Lupe concert because I saw a post Ryan made offering tickets for $70, and he said he spent his funds on weed.

  

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legsdiamond
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69. "Wow. You weren’t lying about dude. "
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Some people just can’t do the right thing.

I’m lost tho. Seems like you mail trees to Kansas or Nebraska.

Why the hell you sending weed to Cali?

shut up already, damn

  

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Cold Truth
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71. "He lives in Texas. He's from Cali and came here to visit"
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73. "They love sending people to jail in texas"
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72. "Haha damn - good instincts playa."
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